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Well, well, well, would have thought that the girl who couldn't wait to see her tiny town in the rear view mirror would one day find herself growing nostalgic about those years of her life?  She had always said that she would never return for a class reunion, noting that she "didn't like them then and had no desire to see them now"; and yet she finds herself forty-five years later setting up a class Facebook page and talking to people she barely spoke with back then... or was it that they barely spoke to her?

Admittedly, she was a stand-out in her class of 100, the largest class her rural Midwest school would ever have; she kept to herself mostly, dressed a little differently, and tended to promote what was then considered to be radical thinking but would be mild by today's standards. She even threatened to blow the place up a time or two, not seriously but wishfully; that would have landed her in deep trouble in today's atmosphere of violence in schools.

This weekend many of her classmates will be returning home for the 45th class reunion; she is surprised to find herself wishing that she would have made plans to join them, and even more surprised at the number of people who wished she was going to be there.

Now there's talk of meeting up at the 50th; though we all started in the same place, life has taken us many directions and most of us have mellowed considerably, and we find that the shared memories have grown sweeter with time passing.

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 I'm joining Zoe at "Uncharted"
where the cue this week is "well"
 
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30 comments:

  1. I was a nobody in HS, but really enjoyed my reunions

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    1. I think friends who are attending this weekend will find that to be true, Paul. We are so much older and there is no status competition anymore, most of us are grateful just to be alive!

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  2. such a wonderful story , Josie. Nostalgic too , though i am only from a school in India .
    Love,
    Moon

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    1. Thank you, Moon! Do they have class reunions there? Would you attend one if there was? I never wanted to in earlier years, but perspective changes as you get older.

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  3. Haven't been to a reunion yet and don't have any plans to. I guess I just have no interest in revisiting those years. Perhaps because I hold no particular nostalgia for that time?

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    1. I have always felt that way too, Lisa. High school was not among my favorite life experiences. But now that I am older I have changed a lot and the way I look at things has too. I would like to visit with a handful of friends I had back then to see where life has taken them. We will always share that little town on the prairie in common.

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  4. Sometimes going home means finding the people there have changed for the better.

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    1. Exactly, Mimi. Meeting up with former classmates on Facebook shows me that we have all (well, most) mellowed with age and can smile about things that happened back then. We are more caring toward each other and competition no longer matters.

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  5. I had a job during high school so I found I missed a lot of the extracurricular activities and I wasn't in the "popular" crowd but I did have fun at our 40th reunion a few years ago. I was even in on the planning, which was fun. Nice story Josie!

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    1. This is exactly what I anticipate, Janet. Popular back then didn't necessarily guarantee you would achieve fame and fortune later in life, and the older we get the less that matters. I value the few friends I had and would love to reconnect and share some memories.

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  6. "Didn't like them then, not gonna like them now." Yep, I know that girl. :-) You could be writing about me, except I still haven't gone to a reunion. I was a miserable teenager and have no wish to revisit anything from that part of my life. Nicely written!

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    1. Well, that was me too, Deborah and always has been. I have not been in contact with anyone from my high school years until the past couple years when I bumped into a one or two on Facebook, and realized that I kind of miss a few of those old friends, and most certainly the simple life we had in that small town. Now I find myself as administrator of our class group page and having a lot of fun with it. I am also learning that many of us felt out of place in those years, with some it was just less obvious.

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  7. The idea of reunion is certainly getting mixed reviews. I am not sure that this story is resolved, well, not yet anyway. Good luck.

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    1. I think that most people either loved high school or hated it, with very few in between. I was always on the "hated it" end, but now I realize that my perspective is far different and I know I would enjoy catching up with a few of the people from back then. Pictures and stories will be shared on our group page from this weekend's gathering, and I'm looking forward to it. People who didn't even know I existed back then are greeting me now, weird but nice.

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  8. Coincidentally I have just said no to a 50th school reunion. I had little in common with them then, so I probably have less in common now! I really enjoyed the description of your character. Different, interesting.

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    1. That's the way I've always felt Keith, and I laughed when I was invited to attend previous ones. But now so many of our class have already died, and it brings home how short life is. We share a time and a place in our life histories, and it might be fun to spend a day or two reminiscing. I am hoping to attend the 50th in five more years, I'll let you know then how it works out! :-)

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  9. intriguing in a reflectionary sort of way. I have not ever attended a reunion, having no ties to anyone who may remain alive. I admit to a certain curiosity (which grows like an overlooked weed missed by an aging gardener)

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    1. I hadn't carried any friendships forward from those years either, until recently reconnected with a few via Facebook. I think you've hit the proverbial nail on the head, there is a curiosity about how life turned out for everyone. We all had big dreams, and of course it's all worked out very differently from what we expected. I think it might be fun to catch up with a few who I shared friendships with, and I'm sure there's a few who are as obnoxious as ever. :-)

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  10. I went to so many schools growing up, that I never bothered to go to a class reunion.

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    1. That is true of Papa Bear as well, Susan, he was never in any one school long enough to fit in or make close friendships. He is so intelligent, but never had the opportunity to put that to good use, it makes me sad for him.

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  11. This is an interesting SSS. My high school reunions have always conflicted with an out-of-state event I sometimes attend. I did attend some kind of birthday gathering for my class though a few years back. It was not as well attended as the reunions I was told, but it was enjoyable. I was surprised that I enjoyed it as much as I did. People do grow up and do change including myself. Most came with their spouses. We didn't stay for the casual dance afterwards, but enjoyed the dinner and conversations.

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    1. I see this as yet another step in becoming comfortable in our own skin, Pat. At this point in life I worry far less about what others may think of me, and instead focus on the friendships that matter and reconnecting with ones I valued in the past. Going to a reunion would be about that, not to mention the laughter over shared memories of our much younger years. I have to admit that I even surprised myself when I began thinking this way instead of saying "no way"! :-)

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  12. Such a great post! Thanks for sharing.

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  13. The memories really do grow sweeter, don't they? Also though, there's the perception that time gives us... in High School, I was convinced I was something I was not and never have been... sure that the popular kids who were nice to me was different than what it was - they were being nice, but I didn't realize it for years and years and now regret not having some of the friendships I could have. I hope you go to the 50th!

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    1. I agree with you Kristi, our perception not only of events but of ourselves changes with time, I have also grown more forgiving as time passes, realizing that it wasn't as easy as it seemed for many. People who barely spoke back then now greet each other warmly and genuinely care about how they are doing. Time heals so many wounds. I am planning to attend the 50th, God willing!

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  14. You get out of high school and then life happens. It changes our perspectives. A yearning for a person or group that shared experiences with you begins to develop. Why, I don't know, but it does.

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    1. You are right, Barbara, and I have to admit that I was surprised to find myself feeling that way. I would have bet money that it would never happen!

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