Giving up all hope of having a better past, that's a big part of forgiveness and moving on in life. The present can't be pleasant when it's anchored to what you hoped would have happened back then.
You are right, as always, Mimi. We have to let go and say "it was what it was" and then take what we have today and make something of it. We all wish some things would have been different, but we learned from it just the same, and can use that knowledge to make today and tomorrow happier.
Your comments are always appreciated... they make me smile! :-)