Yesterday I wrote the typical "it's his fault, but he blames her" story to share, then I woke up thinking about the fact that we all know someone who blames others for everything that goes wrong in their life. We know the couples that constantly find fault with each other, and the parents and the children who blame each other for all the problems in their relationship.
Besides being miserable for outsiders to listen to, the continual picking-at, fault-finding, finger-pointing, and blame-assigning is so destructive to all involved; feelings of anger, frustration, resentment, defeat, and failure pile up and eventually destroy any hope of salvaging the situation.
Deciding with whom the fault lies is a waste of time and energy; the solution is so obvious that it's often overlooked... when something goes wrong, work together to fix the problem, instead of rushing to fix the blame.
Additionally, if hurt and misunderstanding come between you, follow Papa Bear's advice to newlyweds and be the first to say you're sorry, even if you aren't sure you were in the wrong. Being right isn't always most important, nurturing the relationship you share is.
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