And forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past.
I really like that perspective, Mimi, and I agree with you. At some point we have to let go of it.
My favourite quote regarding the past is: "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different." (unknown)This is so hard to do. I have been able to do it, with God's help. Revisiting it does more harm than good. I focus on my blessings and those who love me now. Hugs.
There are surely times when we wish it could have been different, but the reality is that it was what it was and there is a time to acknowledge that and move on. You are right that revisiting the past often does more harm. Forgiveness isn't easy, sometimes it's very hard, but yes it can be done, we do it for us, not for them.
Your comments are always appreciated... they make me smile! :-)