That was the hardest lesson I had to learn...and still don't know if the lesson took.
It was for me too, Gail. I was raised by a mom who did everything anyone ever asked of her, even if it wasn't fair or thoughtful on their part, and she didn't enjoy it either, but felt she couldn't say no. Just in recent years I have learned it's okay to say no if it doesn't feel like something you want or need to do.
In fact, sometimes you have to say no, or you are not being kind.
That's a really good point, Mimi. I agree with you! Also, sometimes if we fail to say no we don't give others the opportunity to do things for themselves or others because we always take care of it all!
It took me decades to learn this.
Me too Ellen, about five decades in fact! :-) I tried to be everything for everybody and never disappoint anyone. Then I learned what being a doormat was all about and that my wants and needs are important too. Some people are givers and some people are takers and we have to be on the look out for the those!
I think saying "no" is very healthy :)
I agree, Elsie! Wisdom teaches us that there are times and places when the very best answer is "no"!
A lesson I learned this week! Sadly I had to let my Girl Guide unit go, as we only had 3 members register. There is a second one that runs on a different night and it seems that was the better choice for most. I felt bad - but what can you do?
That is sad, because it was something you enjoyed and were obviously good at it. Families are so ridiculously busy now that I'm sure it's hard for everyone to fit it all in. I suspect you will find another way to give to young people, you have a giving heart!
Your comments are always appreciated... they make me smile! :-)