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More Beautiful With Time

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I'm joining Patricia for In Other Words
where this week's writing prompt
is the following quotation by Harriet Beecher Stowe:
"So much has been said and sung of beautiful young girls,
why don't somebody wake up to the beauty of old women?"

A friend close to my age texted me this past weekend.  She started going to Weight Watchers and has lost a little weight, so she bought a new outfit to wear for Mother's Day.  She was proud of it and had her husband take a picture.  Photographs are rarely flattering, and after she saw it she felt fat and ugly, and it ruined her day.  It was heartbreaking.  Why is it that we are taught in our society that beauty can only be found in being slender and youthful?  Why have we defined it so narrowly that a great many women over fifty will not fit the label? 

Is beauty really so superficial that size and youth are the only criteria that count?  What about eyes that shine with the light of humor and love?  What about hands that have washed dishes and scrubbed floors, and tended babies? What about hair that has turned to silver in the course of a lifetime of experiences?  What about a lap that is broad and soft and just right for snuggling grandchildren and reading them stories?  Couldn't we also see these thing as being attributes of a beautiful woman too?

If objects like furniture take on increased value when they exceed fifty years of age - even if they are faded and worn on the edges, and have lost a few screws along the way -  shouldn't the same also be true for women?  I think that we may need to rethink what we view as beautiful.
 
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8 comments:

  1. Bravo! You said what many of us think. Sadly, most of us who echo your thoughts are older. When we are young we tend to follow "trends" and they come from the media and whoever it is that decides what the current trend should be. The "whoevers" are looking for fame and to make money. I would like to think this will change but I don't see it happening. I think it will get worse with the growth of social media and need to be beautiful as defined by the media.

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    1. I never was much into trends, seeing them as being very fickle, and rarely thought out well. I march to my own music (well, these days I shuffle to it, but that still counts :-) I agree that the trend to see youth as the only beauty will continue, it will take a major upheaval in our society to get things right again. But at least we oldies can look at each other and see the beauty that exists is far more precious than the fleeting kind!

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  2. Oh dear, I got so busy with my rant I forgot to thank you for sharing your post with In Other Words. Thank You! Thank you!

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    1. Thank YOU for providing such great quotes for my writing inspiration each week! You make me think about higher things than scooping the kitty box and washing the next load of socks! :-)

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  3. Believe me, i could not agree more.

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    1. I was pretty sure you would see it this way too, Mimi! People who see from the heart find beauty everywhere!

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  4. You pose a lot of questions that society asks us, too. I think we grow into who we are meant to be, if we allow ourselves to.

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    1. I agree, Annie. I really think that most elders mature into the beauty of wisdom and experience and a more relaxed sense of humor at the incongruity of life. I like to think of myself as far more real now than I once was at a younger age. I like the me that I am!

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