Today I'm participating in In Other Words at Patricia's Place where the writing prompt was the following quotation by Henry Ford - "Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right." While I understand what he was saying, I think I am going to disagree with him!
It is true that if we have so little confidence in our ability to do something that we won't even try, or give up without trying very hard, that we are destined to fail, so in that sense he is right. It is also true that if we believe we can achieve something and we believe it strongly enough, we will stop at nothing to attain that goal, so he's right there too.
But there's another situation that occurs in many people's lives at some point - the belief that we can't possibly endure something or make it through another day. It might be a financial disaster, a job that is a nightmare, the loss of home or property, a major medical problem, the loss of a loved one through death or divorce, or any other emotionally devastating situation. What we discover is that whether we want to or believe we can, more often than not we do survive such situations, and come through on the other side to life stabilizing again.
When we encounter times like this we have to remind ourselves of all the other hardships we've endured in the past that seemed insurmountable, and that we've managed to survive every single day up to the present one. Odds are we can survive one more day... and then the next one... and then the next. It's that old concept of "tie a knot and hang on". That doesn't mean that it won't hurt, that it won't be confusing and painful and frustrating and all the emotions that come with intensely difficult things to deal with. What is means is that if we remember to breathe and keep putting one foot in front of the other, and just get through the next hour and the next day, we will eventually find our way out of the maze and we will be ok again.
Never believe yourself to be a failure, look at all the times you've succeeded just to get to this point in life! We can do far more than we believe is possible, we can overcome far more than we believe is possible, we can achieve far more than we ever thought we could. Don't give up on life, and even more importantly, don't give up on yourself. You have the amazing ability to survive... and thrive!