Shut the Door

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Deciding that it's time to end a relationship is one of the toughest decisions you will ever make. When you have invested not only time and effort but your heart as well, it is so difficult to come to the realization that what you once had, or thought you had, or wished you had, is no longer there. We tend to get stuck in the rut of what is familiar.  Even a bad situation feels safer than the unknown beyond the door. 

We sometimes reach a point where we have existed in a bad relationship for so long that we become oblivious to how destructive it really is, it begins to feel like the norm.  But deep down there is always that little voice that whispers "You are better than this, you deserve so much more."

Having been in that place more than once in my life, I can tell you that the amount of courage it takes to make the decision to walk out the door is nothing compared to the courage it will take to make a new life for yourself, and to explore new relationships when you are ready.  They thing you need to know is that your heart knows when something is lost beyond the point of recovery and it is time to move on, it is part of the survival instinct. Listen to your heart.

Life is like a series of stories in which you are the main character.  When you finish one relationship, you put that book down, and then you pick up the next to discover what your next adventure is going to be. You can't begin the new book until you put down the old one.  I can assure you that one volume of your story ending does not mean that the world is ending or that our life is ending - even if it feels like your heart is breaking and part of you secretly wishes you could die.  You will survive this!

If you are in a place where you know that your relationship is destructive and making you unhappy, end that story and put down the book.  There's a whole new story about to begin for you, it's just waiting for you to walk through the door and close it behind you.  It is not the end, it's the beginning... and life most assuredly goes on. 

I'm linking up with Patricia's blog hop In Other Words
 where the creative writing prompt this week was the following quotation:
"Every exit is an entry somewhere else."
- Tom Stoppard



  1. Great comment today on your blog, and you are right on. It's very hard to walk away when you think there might be just one more thing you can do to save the relationship.

  2. Thank you for taking the time to make sure people who need to hear this do hear it.

  3. You write with such depth of feeling and transparency. We are the main character of our story...I had never thought of it like this before. We can choose what kind of character we will be; villain, hero, sad, happy, weak or strong. But it takes some doing to change our style of living. You are a wise woman, Josie. Thank you for sharing your wisdom at In Other Words.

  4. I can't imagine where I would be if I had not ended my first relationship. In fact, I just shivered all over thinking about how close I came to NOT leaving.


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