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Thankful Thoughts - May 23, 2015

Father forgive me, for I have sinned... it's been nine months since I last wrote a post for Ten Things of Thankful.  I confess that I haven't been feeling or living in grateful mode very much lately, despite my brain knowing how important that is for the nurturing of my soul.   Despite the fact that I have been majoring in grumbly/grumpy/whiney behaviors as of late, and perhaps some of that is justified, there are a lot of good things going on in my life too.  Why do I always seem to lose sight of that?  This is as good a time as any to rectify that situation and get my butt back in gear, so here goes...
 
1)  I am so thankful for the newest edition to our family... little Mojo who's photo you'll find on the sidebar at the bottom of the furkids photo roster.  He's a six month old black n' white bundle of affection and energy, that has been an endless source of entertainment this week following his adoption last Saturday.  He is settling in well with the other furkids, and Toby and he have become great playmates, which is what we had hoped for.  Yes, we do now have FIVE cats which surely qualifies me as a "crazy cat lady," and I wear the title with pride!  It is only thru the more sensible oversight of Papa Bear that their numbers won't increase to a dozen!

2) Rain, blessed rain here in West Texas... more of it this Spring than we typically see in two years time!  Despite the muddy driveway and navigating the lakes that form at intersections in town, we are so very grateful for the moisture and the greening up of weeds, and especially for the reduced risk of wildfires as we move into storm season.

3) I am actually spending all three days of this long weekend away from the office!  I've been going in most Saturdays to play catch up on the paperwork mountain that has accumulated in the absence of having a 3rd and 4th staff person to assist the case manager and me.  Saturdays are quiet with no phones ringing, so much can be accomplished, but it also leaves me feeling like I never got away from it.  So I decided to just let it stack this week and say to heck with it! And I'm glad I did, I feel better already, as I sit here in my kaftan sipping a glass of iced tea, surrounded by cats. :-)

4) A sorry sack of child-molesting shit that didn't stay away from his target even after being charged for the first offense and warned by the judge, was sentenced to 25 years in prison this week.  I'm sorry that I am unable to find compassion for him.  I might feel differently if he had made an attempt to change, and I can't help but think about all the other girls he had access to as a girls ball team coach, not to mention his own two daughters.  Once in a very great while I support the legal system in our country, though personally I support castration in such cases, it is a permanent solution to the problem with no worries about repeat offenders.

5) My son has secured a buyer for his house in Clarksville and is scheduled to close this coming week.  He plans to move into the downtown Nashville area, life was kind of lonely for a single guy out there in the family-oriented suburbs.  I am proud of him for deciding several months ago that he needed a change of scenery, and then taking the steps to make it happen!

6) I realize time and time again how blessed I am to have Papa Bear in my life!  Yesterday morning I headed out to my Escape for the drive to work to discover a back tire flat to the rim, in the rain.  Papa Bear got up and ready for work early (this was his late week) and took me to work, stopping for me to pick up Friday donuts on the way, then came home after work and removed the flat tire, replacing it with the spare just in case I had to go somewhere today.  He took the flat to town and dropped it off early this AM on his way to work, and will be bringing home a new one after work, since it was damaged beyond repair.  If I lived on my own, or with a less supportive spouse as in the past, this would all have been my problem to deal with.  Joy is having someone who takes care of me! <3

7) Little text and photo exchanges, and some delightful video clips, along with perpetual games of Words With Friends  and Dice Buddies that add so much to my tiring workdays!  The sharing brings so many reasons to smile. Just having friends to connect with who ask "how was your day" can make all the difference.

8) Hearing my daughter defend someone with whom she more often has reason to grumble. It was nice to hear her see the other side of the picture and acknowledge that we all have our shortcomings. We don't need other people in our lives to be perfect, we just need them to be caring and real!

9) For all the lovely wildflowers, dandelions included, that the rains have brought to our usually brown landscape.  The cottontail rabbits are having a feast, and that means the coyotes are eating a bit better too. I love coyotes, they've gotten an bad rap in life! :-).

10) I'm thankful that I've been able to do a bit better in crawling out of my turtle shell and connecting with others this week in meaningful conversations.  When life is a struggle I tend to withdraw, and then I feel alone in the world (duh)! It's been a really good week of sharing with friends and family, while still managing to retain some downtime for myself each evening, which is just essential to me.

There's I've done it, Ten Things of Thankful - and it wasn't even hard, and as has always proved true for me, when I've finished up one of these posts I feel so much better.  Just as I complete my list the ceiling light came on of it's own accord, I'm taking that as a good sign that someone is pleased. :-)  Now to go get showered and dressed before Papa Bear gets home from work so we can head out for an early dinner.  Saturday is date night at our house... it's so important for all couples to make time for date nights!
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19 comments:

  1. Enjoy your date night with Papa Bear. It has been great talking with you during this week. I consider you a special friend, even though we have never met. Regarding #4 - I have zero compassion for child molesters. Talk about making your blood boil. I'm glad you shared the very good things of your week. Enjoy your three days off.

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    1. I feel the same way Val, kindred spirits! :-) I am in agreement with you on child molesters, and the victim is someone I know, so I have to say that I was truly pleased with the long prison sentence. I saw no remorse and no intent to alter his behavior, so he will continue to be a risk if released. They are saying that he is not a candidate for early release, we'll see. Stealing the innocence of childhood does irreparable damage and it breaks my heart. I know so many adults that have had to come to terms with this nightmare from their childhood. I am happy to be back at TToT. It's wonderful to have that extra day to share with Papa Bear! :-)

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  2. You may not have been doing 10 things of thankful for a while, but your A to Z of things that make you smile was full of joy and gratitude, so i wouldn't feel too badly about it.

    You deserve to have your Saturdays back, and i am so glad Papa Bear took care of the flat tire!

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    1. Thank you, Mimi! You are right that my A to Z posts dealt with the blessings that make me happy, and I am always grateful for those moments and things! I enjoyed writing those posts.
      It was very nice to have my Saturday morning of absolute quiet to relax and write a bit. I realize that I need time that is unscheduled. My life is too much hustle and bustle and things needing to be done. It is clear that I move slower and accomplish less than I could in younger years! :-). Papa Bear takes such good care of me, it is a new and humbling experience.

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  3. That is a perfect shot of Mojo for the lineup! Grateful for you too and all those correspondences... (is that the right word?)

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    1. Thanks, Ivy! I really need to update the other photos, I have better ones that are more recent, somewhere in the massive file on my iPhone! Your daily check-ins mean everything to me, they help me re-center after a long day of mental and emotional overload. Your photos and videos are a precious gift, I'm glad you enjoy our exchanges too!

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    1. Thank you Kathe, I so appreciate you stopping by! :-)

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  5. I'm so glad Papa Bear takes good care of you. :) That really is a blessing and such a help. I know how thankful I am when Bill (my Papa Bear) helps me out or takes care of things like that for me.Otherwise, it would be quite the ordeal - even just making the arrangements to get things fixed ... the time involved etc.Enjoy your weekend and date night. They are much needed.

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    1. You are absolutely right Marcia! In previous relationships I didn't have that kind of support and care, so it is all the more precious to me now, not to have to deal with everything on my own. It reduces the stress and worry, and I just don't have the strength to change out tires, though I do know how. Living twenty miles from town, it's hard to get someone to do it without paying a bunch, so I'm grateful that Papa Bear is a jack of all trades.

      Date nights are always looked forward to, weather we eat out, go to a movie or some event in town, or just share the time together in our side-by side recliners with cats, or the hot tub outside, it's the making time for each other apart from all the outside distraction that is good. Couples who still have children at home need that alone time together even more to keep their marriage going strong!

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  6. Mojo looks adorable. Has it REALLY been nine months? Wow! I don't feel like you've been gone because I see you on facebook, I guess! Glad you're back though :)

    So glad that your marriage to Papa Bear is doing so well, and that you have lovely things scheduled into it, and that you both go out of your way to help and support the other. You're getting it right :)

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    1. Mojo is such a sweetie, a mellow cat, yet not the least intimidated by Toby. They chase each other around the rooms and down the hallway at top speed! :-)

      It has indeed been than long (I had to go back and check my blog), but yes, we do keep in touch with Facebook and WWF too, and you are a tough opponent there, keeping me on my toes! :-)

      Both Papa Bear and I have been down the marriage road before, and have learned from those experiences to sweat the big stuff, ignore the small, and make each other top priority. When you've had a rough relationship in the past, you appreciate a good one all the more, and I have every belief you will also find that to be true!

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  7. After having worked 6 days a week for two years I have a finely developed appreciation for Saturdays off. Congratulations on taking the day for yourself.

    One of the biggest problems with being a cat lover is holding the line on housemates. There are just so many thanks to irresponsible people who don't spay and neuter!

    In my neighborhood we have two ladies who feed the ferals - I'm hoping next year to live trap some and take advantage of a spay/neuter program offered by our Humane Society for feral cats. Perhaps even get some of the other neighbors involved, although it might be a tough sell.

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    1. Six day work weeks are tough! Papa Bear has only one Saturday off a month, and it's hard on him, though he never complains. I go in by choice, not by request or demand, and I like feeling more on top of things for Monday, but it still makes the weekend all too short.

      Yes, if I had the space and money to do it well, I would operate a no-kill cat shelter, because I want to rescue every abused or abandoned kitty that I see! I have all five of my approved "kitty slots") filled. With each one we've added they've fit in very well, and it appears that Mojo will do the same, providing Toby with the playmate/buddy that he needed. All of our children are grown and on their own, so I suppose this is our "empty nest" family and we love them dearly. Very spoiled bunch! :-)

      Kudos to you for wanting to get those feral spayed/neutered. As kind as it is to feed them, an ever increasing number can create major problems in a neighborhood. Hopefully your fellow neighbors will join in to make it a community project for the good of all concerned.

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  8. Welcome back! Mojo is cute! I agree with you about date nights; hope you had fun!

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  9. Glad to see you back! This exercise in thankfulness most certainly has a way of helping people to feel better.
    Good for you, taking all three days off of work.
    It is a true blessing to have someone to do the dirty work of tire changing for you. I'm trying really hard to raise boys who will do the same thing for their wives (or any woman they see who could use the hand) someday.

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  10. Well, I wonder if you got any of the deluge that hit the Hill Country. My, what a storm!
    Child molesters are among those for whom it is very hard to feel compassion. I am conflicted as you are.

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