I was talking tonight with someone I care about, someone who has talked herself into believing that all the really good times in her life are in the past, and that the future can only hold "leftovers" or settling for less than the best. I challenge that line of thinking, because my life is living proof that it isn't true. We can be at the darkest point of our lives, or in the longest period of despair, and feel too hopeless about life to ever believe it could be good again. Sometimes we can't see beyond the immediate issues overshadowing our lives, we can't see the faint light at the end of the long tunnel, and we have forgotten that the sun rises every morning on a new day.
We have no idea what tomorrow might bring, something so different than what we have imagined! If you doubt that, think back on the last ten or twenty years of your life... has it turned out exactly as you planned and expected? Have their been some twists and turns and surprises along the way? Of course there have been! In reality we can't see beyond the moment, not even around the corner of tomorrow! I had no idea that there was a man out there like Papa Bear, and that he would want me, love me! I had no belief that the fairytale kind of romantic love was even possible. I had no way of knowing what God had in store for me!
Before, in past relationships, I settled... I settled for less than I had dreamed of, for less than what I had hoped for, and ultimately for less than what I was worth... and I got what I settled for, not good enough. Not enough to make a loving, lasting relationship work no matter how much effort I put into it. After those very bad experiences I gave up, thinking it was just impossible, that there were no "good enough" men, and/or that I wasn't good enough to make any relationship work. With that mindset there was no belief that the future could be better... and certainly no belief that it could be amazing. I would have laughed at anyone who tried to convince me otherwise.
The thought I want to leave you with, is that ANYTHING is possible, whether we believe it or not, weather we are even able to imagine it. When bad things happen, when life takes a detour through dark or difficult places, when old relationships end, it doesn't mean the end of the world. It doesn't mean that there is no possibility for life to be good again, indeed even better than it was before, even happier. Never give up hope!
Even though I am sixty years old now, and have done a heap of living in the last six decades, I absolutely believe that there are still more happy days ahead in my life. Papa Bear believes that too. Some of the best days haven't happened yet... and I'm looking forward to them! How about you?
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