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That's Just Rude!

When you were young, you were hopefully taught "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!"  Recently I've been seeing a rash of snide, tacky, and often downright rude comments showing up on blog posts and Facebook statuses.  What's up with that?  As far as I'm concerned, paying a visit to someone's blog or Facebook page is the same thing as paying a visit to their home.  You wouldn't walk into someone's house and insult them, would you?  Hopefully not! 
 
 If you don't care for the point of view being expressed, or the person expressing it, you are free to move on.  There is no need to leave comments implying that you are somehow better than or above the author of that page, or that you see them as a total idiot (said in cleverly crafted words to make it appear less insulting).  I'm not saying that it's always wrong to disagree, but it can ALWAYS be done respectfully! 
 
The person who writes a blog post or a Facebook status is putting their thoughts out there for everyone to see and consider, not for you to use as a personal soapbox or attention draw.  If you have some grievous issue with the post, you can always send an email or a private message to relay your concerns.  If you find it necessary to be uppity or insulting, don't be surprised if the blog or Facebook author decides to delete your remarks and remove you from their blog roll!
 
I do not apologize for what I write, or how I write it; the opinions expressed are clearly my own and I don't expect everyone to agree with them.  However, I do expect that if you come visiting at my place you will show me the same courtesy I would show you.  If  you can't say something nice, don't bother to say anything at all... move on! 
 
If you find yourself having the urge to add sharp commentary on several blogs or Facebook pages, maybe it's time for a little soul searching to discover what the underlying issue is and why you are choosing to bring people down rather than uplift them.  Additionally, saying something negative, and then adding a smiley face or a sweet greeting doesn't fool anyone.  If you said it, you probably meant it, and maybe the problem isn't with them at all, it's with you. 
 
Be a messenger of encouragement, seek to brighten lives and generate smiles!  If you write it, reread it, and ask yourself how you would feel if someone left that comment for you!  It isn't your place to instruct, contest, or correct the author, you are a guest!  When you travel about in the Blogsphere and Facebook, please remember to MIND YOUR MANNERS!  It will make the experience so much nicer for everyone.  (Stepping off my soapbox now :-)

18 comments:

  1. This is a much needed post. I have had this happen to me and seen it done to others. There is no excuse for rudeness. Hurting others is never the right thing to do. Thank you for this. Hugs.

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    1. I've seen some truly inappropriate comments lately, and a whole lot of superiority or "notice me" type remarks. It's just sad that some folks feel more important if they do that. It is so fun to get positive feedback, why would anyone want to do it any other way?!

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  2. That's true, I always see terrible things written on comments to videos, blogs, and things, people talking about things they don't know about bothers me too. I usually just ignore it and don't let it get to me. I prefer to smile and be nice and try to make people happy and if they don't like me fine and if they do, that's cool.
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    1. Exactly Joseph, you have it right! The person who is posting is doing their very best effort with what they know and understand, it might not be something we see as awesome or even accurate, but that doesn't give us the right to be insulting or snobbish. Unless we know that person very, very well, we really have no idea what their path has been or what is going on in their life now, but we do know that adding negativity is never kind or necessary. I try to be nice and say positive things too, it just feels good because it's the right thing to do! I'm with you, if they don't like me, that's cool.. there are plenty of other bloggers they can seek out! :-)

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  3. Hey, I accidentally fell in with the wrong bloggers and ended up getting my rear end handed to me on the tip of one of their knives. Prepper types, who act like they WANT trouble to hit others so they will feel superior and maybe get a chance to shoot someone. I left. Put them OUT of my memory, and yet, for weeks, they stalk my blog. Rudeness is anger hidden under a cloak of hate.

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    1. It is amazing the lengths people will go to in order to inflict misery on others, isn't it Lotta Joy. I think if someone makes it clear to you that they are not enjoying your company, that's a good time to say adios and go your own way. Some people have a hard time accepting that everybody doesn't adore them. I agree with you that rudeness, even if done under a cloak of snarky comments, is a symptom of much bigger problems for the one who behaves that way. We shall ignore them and move on!

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  4. So many people seem to think they can hide behind the Internet when they write cruel or rude things. I wonder if they'd say the same things if they were face-to-face?

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    1. I often wonder that too, Dana, in some ways the Internet permits cowards to become bullies. If I have an issue with someone I am not going to address it on their page or anyone else's page either! That's what email and private messaging are for... and that still means being respectful!

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    1. Thank you Christine! I've noted a comment or two on your blog that I felt was a little snippy, and it made me sad. You write such wonderful things, and it's obvious that you are a very caring and considerate person. I think that sometimes commenters are having personal issues that cause them to act out a bit, but we should not have to apologize for what we write, since no one is forcing anyone to read it! A little common courtesy is all I'm asking for here! :-)

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  6. Who dares to put a rude comment on Josie's Blog? Come visit me and spill your venom you butt hole, I'll have some words for you! Leave Josie alone! Her face is in the dictionary under "Nice Person!"

    "Cranky Old Man"

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    1. ROFL Joe, your comment made my day! It is not just my blog that has been under attack by a truly "cranky" person, and my patience with it is wearing thin. I am handy with the delete button, and if people can't play nice, they don't get to play here for long. I'm sure there are folks who would tell you I'm not so nice, but I really do try to mind my manners when I visit other people's pages, and not say things to be uppity or insulting! I appreciate your support... and the smile you just added to my day! :-)

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  7. Agreed. You can disagree with someone without being disagreeable and ruining a friendship.

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    1. That's absolutely right, Mimi, we can exchange our opinions and ideas without trying to make the other person feel inferior or unintelligent. I think that some people just want everything to be all about them and they will try to garner attention any way they can, even if it means leaving comments that just aren't supportive and kind. What a sad way to live!

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  8. It's a sad world we live in. It seems everyone always has a stick up their butt. I have my days too but I still try to keep my comments respectful. On that note....what's up your butt? lol just kidding! You know me...always the jokester!

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    1. Welcome back to Blogland, Workingdan! I must say things have been a bit "tame" around here in your absence. :-) Yup, I was pretty miffed by some rude behavior. Nothing bugs me more than people who feel the need to constantly remind us of their assumed superiority or financial wealth. A little humility is a good thing. That being said, you make me laugh! :-)

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  9. Amen! Well said! I may share this on my facebook page ;) But somehow I don't think the rude peeps would take it to heart :(

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    1. You are very welcome to share this, Bobby, though you are sadly right that the people it was intended for rarely see themselves in such a message. Folks like that have an amazing ability to turn it around in their minds so they can see themselves as victims. Still, a little reminder to play nice never hurts!

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