What It Is
That brings us to the second part of The Serenity Prayer... the courage to CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN. It is easy to let acceptance become complacency. To live in unhealthy, happy situations because it is easier to put up with it than it is to effect a change. As is noted, it takes COURAGE and determination to set your sights on something more and move forward. Often we have to do some real seeking and soul-searching to discover ways to deal with difficult situations, to see what changes can be made. It becomes all to easy to say "it is what it is, there is nothing I can do about it." That excuses us from making the effort to identify and initiate positive changes in our lives.
The final part of the Serenity Prayer is the most important part... THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. Some things truly cannot be changed, but many things can - if we are willing to step outside the box of "how we've always done it" and look at the situation in a new light. Often a new approach is in order.
The unwritten last step of this process is to not only find the courage but also the DETERMINATION to initiate changes in our lives. The thought of doing something about a problem can be overwhelming, especially when we are addressing big issues. The answer is to define steps toward that goal, baby steps if necessary, but steps in the right direction. I cannot lose fifty pounds by agreeing that it needs to happen. I cannot lose it tomorrow or this month. But I can take steps that will ultimately lead to that goal, if I change even one thing in my eating habits and one thing about my level of activity it can make a substantial difference over time. After I get that step mastered, I can add another. As an example, at one point my husband found the willpower to forego his habit of drinking several Dr. Pepper's at work each day. He didn't change his entire diet, he just took that one step in the right direction, and the reduction of sugar carbs led to the loss of about twenty pounds.. that's significant! It is also motivational... it energizes one to think about what more they can do to reach their goal.
Most often we have to start with identifying the problem, and then convince ourselves that we CAN change, if we truly want something different in our lives. This year, may you find the courage and the determination to initiate the changes you want to see. I am determined to do the same.