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The Serenity Prayer... most of us are familiar with it, and it's a very healthy approach to life.  Sometimes one of the most difficult things to do is to come to terms with the THINGS WE CANNOT CHANGE, and to find a way to be at peace with that, so that we aren't expending a huge amount of energy pounding our heads against the wall. There is little point in being continually angry or frustrated with things we cannot change.  However, this doesn't always mean seeing bad situations as good or even acceptable; sometimes seeing things as they are should be as starting point, a jumping off place to initiate change.

That brings us to the second part of The Serenity Prayer... the courage to CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN.  It is easy to let acceptance become complacency.  To live in unhealthy, happy situations because it is easier to put up with it than it is to effect a change.  As is noted, it takes COURAGE and determination to set your sights on something more and move forward.  Often we have to do some real seeking and soul-searching to discover ways to deal with difficult situations, to see what changes can be made.  It becomes all to easy to say "it is what it is, there is nothing I can do about it." That excuses us from making the effort to identify and initiate positive changes in our lives.

The final part of the Serenity Prayer is the most important part... THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. Some things truly cannot be changed, but many things can - if we are willing to step outside the box of "how we've always done it" and look at the situation in a new light. Often a new approach is in order.

The unwritten last step of this process is to not only find the courage but also the DETERMINATION to initiate changes in our lives.  The thought of doing something about a problem can be overwhelming, especially when we are addressing big issues.  The answer is to define steps toward that goal, baby steps if necessary, but steps in the right direction. I cannot lose fifty pounds by agreeing that it needs to happen.  I cannot lose it tomorrow or this month.  But I can take steps that will ultimately lead to that goal, if I change even one thing in my eating habits and one thing about my level of activity it can make a substantial difference over time.  After I get that step mastered, I can add another. As an example, at one point my husband found the willpower to forego his habit of drinking several Dr. Pepper's at work each day.  He didn't change his entire diet, he just took that one step in the right direction, and the reduction of sugar carbs led to the loss of about twenty pounds.. that's significant! It is also motivational... it energizes one to think about what more they can do to reach their goal.

Most often we have to start with identifying the problem, and then convince ourselves that we CAN change, if we truly want something different in our lives.  This year, may you find the courage and the determination to initiate the changes you want to see. I am determined to do the same. 

20 comments:

  1. I love how you broke down the Serenity prayer and made it clear what each step can bring. Great reminder on how with this little prayer and the courage to change and knowing the problem it can happen step by step little by little.
    Happy New year
    Blessings

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    1. Thank you Beth, I believe that change is possible, if we are committed to doing whatever it takes to make it happen!

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  2. This was our graduating class's prayer way back in 1972!

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    1. A perfect prayer for a graduating class Gail, if we all approached life with this wisdom it would be a much happier world!

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  3. I, too, am working on giving the things to God that I cannot change. I spend too much time and focus on worrying about these things instead of just trusting in Him. Thank you for this reminder.

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    1. I spend too much time being angry and frustrated about things and people I can't change, Ms. G! I'm sure it's something most of us need to work on! :-)

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  4. I love this! So very true concerning making change and being wise to accept (and let go of) the things that we can't. This was the jest of my blog post that disappeared. Guess what? It reappeared! Just like that, it was back in my posts list! So bizarre. Maybe it was a good thing it did disappear - it wasn't so good and I've been working on a replacement that is similar. Who knows?

    Thanks for this encouraging post!

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    1. I've often wondered too, Carrie, when I have a post or email evaporate, was that a sign that it wasn't right for publication? Maybe :-) Getting started on making changes seems to be the hardest part for most of us. I have so many good intentions... it is said the road to hell is paved with them. ;-)

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  5. I have this on a plaque on my desk at work. And quite honestly I probably recite it daily. My change this year is to drop a lot of weight. Drop by my site and watch the progress. www.imnotsuperwoman.com Good luck on the changes you are making this year.

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    1. I'm thinking we should all have this posted somewhere as a reminder, I know I need it! Wishing you great success on your weight loss, I'll be by to see your plans and progress!

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  6. This is great, and so appropriate for what I would like to accomplish this year. So much "change" needed, and not knowing where to start. I have a goal, but it's what's in between HERE and THERE that gets me.... This also reminds me of another version: "God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change; the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me." I got a lot to do!!!!

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    1. I love your version... equally true and one that's easy to loose sight of, at least for me. I'd like to change everyone else! I need to work harder on me! I know one important thing is not to take on too many changes at once so that we can easily overwhelm and defeat ourselves. Start small and work your way up. Little successes feed big ones!

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    1. I think so too, Shimon. It is good to understand the difference.

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  8. I am not a religious at all but I truly believe in the power of these words.

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    1. I agree Wayne, the power is in the meaning.

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  9. That's true. I like to take steps to do things, but I sometimes find it hard and usually get very frustrated. I had the same problem with coca-cola once, but I limited myself to only to two cans a day and eventually didn't want to drink coke anymore. : )

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    1. I managed to break myself of that habit too, Joseph, at one time Coke was my standard breakfast drink! It's interesting that we truly can retrain our minds and eliminate our cravings, but it's not always an easy task!

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  10. It can be very hard to change and often we resist it out of fear of the unknown. I am guilty of that myself. A friend of mine told me recently that change can lead to bigger and better things and she is right. Change allows us to grow, for sure, we just have to release the fear and do it!!!

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    1. You are right Selma, we fear change, clinging to the comfort of familiar ways, even though the change can often prove to be so much better and happier, we have to find our courage! That's hard, but not impossible!

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