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Shedding My Skin


It's that time of the year again... a time of reflection on who we are, where we've been, and what the past year has brought us.  It's a time for reassessment and the making of resolutions regarding changes we'd like to see transpire in our lives.

Change... that's a word I've often struggled with.  I want to be me! I am relatively content with who I am.  I don't want to have to change into someone or something else to please myself or anyone else.  Yet certainly there are ways that I would like to be different... sort of a new and improved version of me in the coming year.  Bearing that in mind, there are a few areas I want to spend more energy focusing on, I guess you could call them resolutions of a sort... I want to be more healthy,  I want to be a kinder person, I want to experience a greater sense of happiness in my daily life. 

It is so easy to fall into a rut and go thru our days on "remote control" without a lot of intent. Wanting something is a lot like wishing for it to happen, and I know that just wanting it won't make it so... I also want to find a million dollars and retire, and that isn't likely to happen either!  So let me rephrase those resolutions as statements of intent...   I intend to work at being more healthy, I intend to be a kinder person, I intend to experience a greater sense of happiness in my daily life.  Do you see the difference... the emphasis is a focus on intent, I am going to do something to effect those changes, rather than waiting for them to materialize all on their own! I am going to do something different! What I have been doing all along isn't getting me to where I want to be regarding those aspects of my life!

Now, getting back to that word "change", I like to look at it a little differently.  I believe that I am basically a good person, and good enough just the way I am.  Rather than wanting to change things about me, I envision myself as the snake who periodically sheds his old skin, finding it too confining for his growing body.  He emerges from the struggle of shedding off that old cloak all shiny bright and new, and more beautiful than ever before!  I am going to work on shedding some of the old me that no longer fits, so that the new parts that have been growing and expanding can emerge shining and bright!

This time around, when you think about making resolutions for the new year, resolve to shed that old, battered and scarred skin of conditioning and past experience, and slip into the new year fresh and ready to be the beautiful self you truly are!

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Linking up with Brenda at Pondering With A Purpose
where this week's prompt is "resolutions"

20 comments:

  1. I love this! Shedding of the skin - how perfectly put!! I pretty much like myself too but there are definitely many ways I need to improve.

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    1. Thank you Judy! THere is also much of the way I used to be that no longer reflects the person I want to be, so I'm working on that shedding process, bit by bit! Even now, I look bad at the old me and hardly recognize her anymore, she belongs in the past! :-)

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  2. This is a wonderful post.... I absolutely agree with you that to get out of the old conditioning is essential to growth... but you and I both know that the old ways are the comfortable ways and getting out the cycle is much easier said than accomplished in reality.... it takes many, many, many bad moments to finally change one little thing.

    Thanks for pondering with me and Happy New Year Josie!

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    1. You are so right about that, Brenda! I have had to experience the same miserable results in life over and over before it dawns on me that I'm not having any fun and I've no one to blame but myself! When we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and resolve to effect change, we CAN do it, it isn't easy and it's often scary, but we CAN! I still have to remind myself to take that first small step on some things daily! :-) Hugs and Happy New Year to you!

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  3. I never make New Year's Resolutions. And I probably should. I have much I can improve on. I just...am way too comfy in my rut.

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    1. I generally end up about right where I started, Maria, so perhaps the process is futile, but at least good to contemplate the possibilities. I know what I could accomplish if I set my mind to it! Now, will accomplish is another matter entirely! :-)

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  4. Great idea! I like that analogy of shedding the snake's skin and comparing it to your life's experience and habits. I find doing something about it is more effective than waiting for it to happen. : )

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    1. I like that analogy too Joseph, I can relate to that far better than always worrying about changing something to be more perfect or more correct. You are right that if we want something to happen we need to take steps to set it in motion. Change is not likely to show up on our doorstep unannounced, we could be waiting for a lifetime.

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  5. I don't normally make resolutions either, I don't like change at all and changing myself has at times been very insurmaountable. Life has a way of putting on us on the paths of change sometimes that can't be avoided in that vein I have changed for the better and I am ready to do a little change for the better again.
    I love the analogy you used here and wish you well with the improvements you are undertaking for change as well.

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    1. It's true Len, that the Universe has a way of giving us the same lessons over and over in different scenarios until we get the message and put it to practice in our lives. Resistance is futile, or at least self-defeating! For me,making the effort is tanamount to success, it's the not trying that I see as failure.

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  6. Great post Josie. I've been thinking a lot about change lately, and thinking the New Year is a good time to start. We'll see. But it's going to be really hard, as most of the changes needed start with ME....
    Happy new year Josie!!!!

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    1. That is the hardest part, Robin... the really important things... the things we CAN change, are for the most part within us! Start with baby steps toward whatever goals you have, plan step one and go for it, then step 2, etc. Looking at the whole project can be overwhelming and feel defeating, breaking it down helps... and if you slip back a step or two, remember that's human, then stand up and start off again! :-) I have a couple big projects to address too, and they're important, so I'll be setting up some steps and we can cheer each other on! HUGS and Happy New Year!

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  7. Ah, change. I wish change were as easy as this. I guess it goes back to the Serenity prayer, accepting what you can change, courage to change the things you can, and wisdom to know the difference. That's where the serenity comes in.

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    1. Very true, McGuffy Ann, change is seldom easy, and many things in life we have no control over and can't change, then the change has to come from within, that's where the "learning to accept" part comes in if we are to live in peace. I'm still working on the "letting go" part too, it's hard when you've worked so hard for so long to maintain control of your life! HUGS!

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  8. Completely agree with you re. setting intentions and contributing to the change we seek to effect. Sitting around waiting ain't gonna do nothing...we need to get into it and move things along. Change is hard but in the long run is the best thing for us. Wise words, Josie!!!

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    1. Taking the first step is always the hardest for me, Selma. I know what I need to do and I know what I want to accomplish, finding the motivation to start something I know won't be easy.. that takes some soul searching. But it's time for me to get to work on a couple issues I've been avoiding for too long. No time like the present, let's do it! :-)

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  9. I have shed the old skin of a job in Dec of 2012--I intend to get a new one in 2013. The process has already begun. I intend to remain the person I really am, helpful and kind--the change will be to not allow others to use me anymore (within reason)

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    1. Hi Miki, welcome to my blog! I did exactly the same thing last year... and it has worked out really well. Sometimes we have to just go for it! Read my post "Leap of Faith" to find out about my job change. I totally agree about being a doormat, my latest post "A Change of Plans" is about just that! One can be kind and helpful without allowing others to take advantage of it. Wishing you the very best in the new year!

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  10. You may want to check out my Wordless Wednesday next week. It is a bunch of snake pictures...:-) Great post all around.

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    1. Yikes! I am terrified of snakes, Wayne! I love to look at them... thru glass windows in exhibits and in photos... but anything that can move that quickly without legs just isn't right! THey give me nightmares! :-) Thanks for stopping by! I'll cbe sure to check it out come Wednesday.

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