Holidays are certainly a time when all the memories of past years come into play (or perhaps more accurately - out to play), bringing with them emotions both sweet and bittersweet.
When you are older, and have lived a life with multiple chapters and relationships, you lack the continuity of a family home and memories that have replayed and grown along with your children over the years. John has been married three times before, as have I, thus we each carry memories of those years as well as the new memories we have made together in the last four Christmases shared.
For me, there have been some very sad Christmases, particularly two I spent alone with no one and children not at home, also a couple spent with my ex when it would have been preferable to be alone. But I also have some wonderful memories of Christmases when the kids were small, and a couple spent with my daughter and her now ex-husband in recent years that were great fun.
Then there are the Christmases of my childhood... bright with memories of real Christmas trees, colored lights, crunching snow, Christmas carols, and cookies baking in the oven!
Of course the very best holiday memory of all was created just after the end of the year... on January 2nd of 2008 nearly five year ago... that's the date of my first online message exchanges with Papa Bear through Yahoo Personals! Just a month later we were buying a house and making plans to be together! Talk about whirlwind romance... some things are just meant to be!
You will often hear me say now "Make good memories!" That's the secret to coming to terms with those that are not so good... replace them in in your heart and mind with new ones of good times shared with people you love. Fill your heart with joyful memories that you can replay when ever life needs a bit of brightening. It's magic that works!