We have arrived at the final question in Carrie's ginormous Get-Away Give-Away contest at The Slow-Dripped Life. In reality, I love to ask questions, and I love to answer them... it's that Aquarian curiosity thing I guess! :-) I'd be happily playing along even if there wasn't this amazing prize for the winning, and I'm going to miss the contest when it's over. But back to the task at hand... This week we had a choice of two questions to pick from. I think I'll answer both! :-)
1) "If you could be locked in somewhere overnight, where would it be and what would you do? Would you be by yourself or with someone, and if so, who?
It would be at a lovely little cabin like this, nestled in the woods, with my husband, my dear friend Annie, and her husband. We would spend the night sharing good food and drink, and lots of laughter... visiting by fireplace light, talking about old times, and life now, and listening to her husband play all the songs of our generation on his guitar. I know that when they came to let us out in the morning, no one would want to leave. :-)
2) "Many of us have that one moment or decision that, if we could go back, we would choose differently. If you could go back and get a do over, what would you do?"
I had to think a bit on this one. If I took an undo of either of my first two wedding days, it would also mean that I wouldn't have one of my two amazing children, so guess I'll have to keep those. (Could I keep the kids and undo the relationships with their dads? :-)
I would love to do an undo of my decision as temporary acting director of a human services agency to rehire an employee who threw a tantrum and walked out over my appointment to the temporary role. He returned at my request, and along with his side-kick made my life a living hell for the next ten years. Undo, please! My heart was in the right place but his obviously wasn't.
But... the more I thought about it, there is one day, one decision, I made that has impacted every single day of my life since. That one was when I was twenty two and decided to withdraw from college to chase follow my first husband's dreams and schemes which would soon take us to another state, and then another, and then overseas, where I finally dissolved the marriage. If I had opted/insisted instead on staying in school and finishing my degree, I would have had so many more options in my life... a career that was meaningful, a way to support my children and myself so I wasn't stuck living with rats, and I probably could have been retired by now instead of working my butt off in a low-end job. In other words, I could have been a contender!
It seemed like the easy answer at the time, and I believed that I would be return to school in the future. Easier said than done. Silly me, I should have seen that freight train derailing! That's why it has been so important to me that both of my children have good careers of their choosing that render them financially independent and able to live there lives where and how they choose. I couldn't be prouder of them, my son being an air traffic controller and my daughter, a registered nurse. They will never find themselves in the situations I have, stuck someplace I didn't want to be because of that one choice, and my inability to make enough money to effect change in my life. It's a lesson I can't preach loud enough to kids growing up... choose wisely and finish school!