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Listen With Your Heart


Have you seen the new movie Hope Springs starring Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones?  (You can watch the trailer here.)  We saw it last weekend, and it's really good, though not at all what I was expecting. We anticipated that it was going to be a fairly light and humorous look at love and marriage. Instead, it was intensely serious, sprinkled with just enough light moments to make it good viewing. 

Meryl and Tommy Lee play a middle-aged couple who have lost the spark in their marriage.  The wife is deeply unhappy with the state of their relationship and how it's evolved over the years, with intimacy being lost along the way.  The husband seems less concerned and is far from supportive of his wife's plan effect change.  I won't spoil the movie with the details and outcome. 

I think every couple who has been together for awhile would benefit from seeing this film, there is much to reflect on regarding your own relationship.  Do you know for certain if your spouse is happy and content with the way things are between you?  Are you?  Do you have unfulfilled dreams and fantasies?  Does he/she?  Do you still connect at the same level you did in the early years of your relationship?  Is the physical attraction just as strong?

Most certainly relationships change with time, hopefully for the better.  My beloved Papa Bear says that real love grows a little bit stronger every day, and I've come to realize that is true.  You may look at your partner thru different eyes than you did years ago, but hopefully those eyes see more to admire than they did in the beginning.  Attraction changes, but it doesn't need to lose its intensity or its expression. 

Meryl Streep just gets better and better with age, and Tommy Lee was perfect in his role of the inattentive spouse.  They made a very believable couple, the emotions felt very real.  What seemed to be missing most in the relationship they portrayed was the willingness to hear what each other was trying to say.  They weren't really paying attention to each other, they weren't communicating about more than the basics of everyday cohabitation.  They were more like roommates than two people who had shared a lifetime of love and memories.  It was incredibly sad and painful to watch. 

 I encourage you to go see this movie, or rent it when it becomes available.  It will remind you of what's really important in your relationship... that you make time for each other, that you have fun together, that you communicate your thoughts and feelings, and most of all... that you listen with your heart.

12 comments:

  1. ohhh I want to see this now I had a different thinking of the movie too. I feel like alot that even though me & my spouse love each other we drift apart in our common denominators less likes he is comfortable and says I have everything I ever wanted & probably so but me being married before I know you can never stop working at the marriage and just get comfortable!!
    thanks for sharing I think this will be perfect for us to see at this time.

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    1. This movie is bound to give you things to talk about, Janice, it was powerful, challenging, and good fun at some points too! Meryl Streep was adorable, she played the role perfectly!

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  2. Sounds very interesting. I'll try to watch it, when it gets over here. Thanks for the recommendation.

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    1. It really had a lot to say Shimon, many things to think on, and I think most people who've been in long relationships will identify with parts of it. It was entertaining too, I think you would like it!

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  3. Thanks! C.C. and I were talking about going to it -- now we most definitley will. And I love the title of this blogpost.

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    1. I chose this title, Louise, because I think we often have a tendency to hear the words people are saying, but to not fully understand their meaning or feel their importance, that's why we have to learn to listen with our hearts, not just our ears! You will definitely find this movie to be a conversation starter, much to think about and some great acting to enjoy!

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  4. This only affirms the loveless horror I lived for over 30 years. I could not watch that movie without having flash-backs.

    It's odd how, when you find THE person who fits so well, time has no effect on your happiness with each other.

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    1. I've been where this movie went too, Lotta Joy, co-existing in the same house, but not really having any relationship at all, at least not in the positive sense. I so admired this character's determination to change what was happening, but as we all know... it takes two, both have to want change before change is possible. In your case and mine, that wasn't in the script. But in the end we came out far ahead for losing that round! :-)

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  5. Well, Bill & I have been friends for 35 years, married for 31 years. It is a constant, conscious effort to stay connected. First there has to be respect. Out of that grows love. Rooted in love is loyalty & commitment. We take our vows very seriously, so "working at it" is just tending to what we planted long ago. It is worth it. We can't imagine it any other way.

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    1. You two obviously have it right, Annie, and looking at photos of the two of you together confirms that... so much love shared between you! It does take conscious effort, and it is indeed so worth it! You are blessed beyond measure, as am I!

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    2. I agree. You & John were made for each other, obviously.

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    3. I believe we were too, Annie, it just took us a long time to find each other! I never knew until now that marriage could be as comfortable as an old pair of jeans that fit just right!:-)

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