The Green-Eyed Monster
The "green-eyed monster"... yes, you know the one I'm talking about... jealousy. I don't get it, I really don't. When someone I care about does something good or has something good happen to them, I am happy, truly happy for them... I want to join them in celebrating!
Some folks aren't like that though. They are so egocentric that if it's not all about them they can't be happy. They are either totally disinterested, or they have to find a way to steal a bit of the glory for themselves. I bet you've had it happen, I know I have.... something awesome happens in your life, and you can't wait to share it... and the folks you thought were your friends were totally non-impressed. Worse yet, you might have heard one or two of them saying something negative about it to another so-called friend.
That happened when I met John. The few really true friends I had, the ones who loved me deeply, were 100% supportive and delighted that I had FINALLY found a really good man in my life to love me. They knew where I'd come from and what a wonderful change this would be for me. But then there were a few who just couldn't deal with my happiness. Maybe their own lives weren't looking so great, so they didn't want mine being better than theirs. I even overheard one comment, "Why her of all people, what would he see in her?" At the time it crushed me. I wondered if maybe they were right, maybe I didn't deserve anyone or anything really special in my life. Now I know better and I laugh at such pathetic backstabbers.
Then there are the "friends" that aren't satisfied with just ignoring your good fortune, they have to find a way to get that spotlight back onto them. Attention hogs (or worse names I've heard it referred to lately). It's gotta be all about them. Reminds me of two sisters, the older one beautiful, the younger one nicer but not as glamorous. The beautiful one has boys swarming around her, and she delights in all the attention. She wants for nothing. The plainer one garners no attention. She stands in the shadow of her sister's sun.
Then one day she meets a nice boy of her own, and they grow close. She's in love, at last she has someone special! She can't wait to share this exciting news with her big sister! But the older sister isn't very congratulatory. In fact she isn't at all content with this latest development. She exerts all of her charm, and manages to steal the nice boy away from her sister, breaking the sister's heart. Is it because she finds the boy so amazing and superior to the others that are courting her? Of course not, in reality she could care less about the boy but has to win no matter what the cost. A sad situation, truly.
If you want to know who your real friends are in life, watch the way they react when something good happens to you. Are they cheering for you all the way? Or are they quiet, or maybe saying things to devalue your success? If they try to horn in on your victory or steal your hard-won prize, look out! Maybe they aren't such good friends after all! And don't forget to be a good friend, yourself. If something wonderful happens to someone you care about, find it it your heart to be truly happy for them, even if you might secretly wish it would have happened to you.
Cast love out into the world, it will without a doubt return to you!