Pages

Questions and Answers - #8

Without further ado, I present my Questions and Answers to Round  #8 of One Question Wednesday

From Workingdan - The rules of proper blog etiquette state that if someone comments on your blog, you should return the favor. Would you consider it a violation if... A) you simply don't have the time to visit and comment on blogs? B) You go to visit the blog and it doesn't interest you whatsoever and you have nothing to add? 

A) As more people begin to follow a blog, it gets harder and harder to read all the posts each day, much less comment on all of them.  I used to feel pressured, but I no longer do. I use Google Reader and start at the oldest unread posts from my blogroll, reading as I go along and commenting often, but not always.  I usually do some catching up on the weekends. 

B) Sometimes, as you note, someone's blog, or a particular post just isn't your cup of tea. That doesn't mean it isn't a good post, it just means it's not for you. If I visit a new blog and it's really not the kind I most enjoy, I don't follow it. I have plenty to read as it is.  I will usually leave a comment just to let them know I returned the favor of checking it out, but I don't return.  The same goes with individual posts, commenting isn't obligatory, if I have nothing to add, or can't really think of anything supportive, or - didn't even read it thru to the end, I'll pass on that one.  The idea that everyone must comment on every post by the folks on their blogroll is ridiculous, it's just not doable, and it takes all the fun out of it.  However, if someone I read regularly never comments on any of my posts, I'll probably stop making an effort to comment on theirs. 

C) (bonus answer :-) While on the topic, the habit of following dozens of blogs that you have little interest in or rarely read/comment on, strikes me as ridiculous. Often it's just so they will follow you as well, increasing your "readership".  But if they really aren't reading, what's the value of that number?  I doubt that all the folks on my blogroll actually read what I write. The ones that do, and take the time to comment, make my day. I'd rather have ten readers than two hundred followers!

From Jo-Anne - What do you think of leggings should they be worn out in public or just at home?  

When I'm out I often look at what women are wearing and wonder to myself if they even looked in the mirror before they left home. Did they smile and say "Wow, I look good"?  My personal philosophy is to choose clothing that is flattering to your body. If you have a great body, ok, go for more fitted clothing (note, there is a difference between attractive and vulgar). If you are large, DO NOT wear clothing that fits like sausage casing!  Muffin tops are not attractive, nor are fat rolls. Go for something a bit looser PLEASE!  Back to leggings... they are fine for kids and young adults in great shape. I still don't care for them with tops only, I think it looks like you forgot your pants! Under short dresses, they are cute. But not if you are over 40.  Every woman should learn to dress attractively for their age, don't try to look 21 when you are 40, people are laughing at you.  You can still look beautiful, even hot, but wear your own age with grace, our society needs to learn that women of all shapes and at all stages of life are beautiful, the stereotyped skeleton look is pathetic and unhealthy.

From Soul - how bout the grand ole " moo moo"? Do you own one? Do you wear one? Would you ever wear one in public? 

Moo-moos, delightful and definitely granny wear!  I actually did have one in the past, a Hawaiian print one my mom gave me.  I wore it around the house until it fell apart, just as I do my beloved kaftans. When we get home our shoes and street clothes go off and we opt for comfy wear, if any. Going out in public in your moo-moo, kaftan, pjs, boxers, whatever, is just plain lazy and looks sloppy.  Put some decent clothes on, show enough self-esteem to look like you tried!  The same goes for your kids, they should be dressed just as nicely as you!

From Ken -  I think you mentioned to me that you have a small piece of land there. Aside from target practice, is it big enough to do anything on, like raise an animal of some sort, do you have any plans on doing this, or if not an animal of some type, do you grow a garden or anything? 

We own 2-1/2 acres of pasture land, Ken. We bought it two years ago and moved our manufactured home out here from town.  We love the quiet and the freedom from city regulations on everything. We love seeing the stars and moon without streetlights, and the privacy to be in our hot tub without a ten foot fence around the yard!  Right now we own two trees... yes, just two!  We had a well put in for watering, so we don't have to use the public water system and the associated expense.  Eventually we will do more trees, a yard, rose bushes, lots of flowers, and some cool landscaping.  We also have plans for a veggie garden, which must be fenced to keep out rabbits, and very possibly raising chickens for meat and eggs.  We've even considered developing some of the back lot for motor home parking as space is in short supply here with the oilfield booming and parking spaces for workers go for a premium. 

We have all the space to do anything we want, just need the funds and even moreso the time.  I am hesitant to add even more to our chore/maintenance list, as we spend long hours in town working and Sunday is the only day that Papa Bear has off.  This is the first time we've planted flowers and it sure cheers things up!  Someday... a patch of green lawn for my barefeet that miss growing up in the green grass of Dakota so much.  Nothing smells better than a fresh cut lawn!  One also sees lamas, ostriches, goats, donkeys and longhorns raised here, but that's more work that we need, and of course then you have coyote issues. I see many of them, but I figure they were here first and have a right to eat too. I probably wouldn't feel that way if they reduced my herd of cattle!

From Carrie - What location (or type of location) inspires you the most and why? 

I was raised a flatlander in Dakota, Carrie.  While I love the beauty of mountains and the seashore, I love trees even more... a cabin in the woods next to a river or lake would be a wonderful retreat.  My parents had a small cabin on a nearby lake when I was in highschool.  I loved that place, especially taking my canoe out in early morning or evening when it was calm and quiet.  I don't care for big cities, except to visit and experience a bit of culture now and then, and touristy stuff bores me to tears.  Wanna hear what I think of Mt. Rushmore?  Blow it up and return the mountain to the Lakota people, it was sacred to them.  Would we want them painting faces on our churches? 

That's it for this week's questions, thank you for stopping by and leaving me with  something to write about!  It goes without saying that questions in my comments box are ALWAYS welcome. I love to ask them, and I love to answer them!  Hell, I just love to run my mind and my mouth... rather obvious, isn't it?! :-)

16 comments:

  1. wow - love the questions and answers -- love the moo moo question most though -- I love moo moos! :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I love them too, Louise - so cool and comfortable! May have to shop for a new one, they make great deck wear. :-)

      Delete
  2. Hee hee! Still laughing at muffin tops and fat rolls.
    Agree with you completely on the whole blogging subject. I never follow a blog unless I'm going to read it and like you, would rather have a few dedicated followers then people just following for a 'follow back'.

    As always, it's a huge pleasure to read your answers. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Ahh yes, muffin tops and fat rolls, sounds like a great name for a bakery, doesn't it?! I am a large woman, but you will never, ever see me in a shirt or pants two sizes too small. A little self-respect goes a long way, and makes it more pleasant for other folks too. I hate having my food served by someone whose belly is over- hanging their pants... not appetizing! Low riders are definitely not one-style fits all! :-)

      Delete
  3. It should come as no surprise at this point that I agree with you on the clothing. Be as comfy as ya want but don't look like a slob.

    Also agree on the commenting. I try to answer every one and to visit new folks but I have so many things I read that if something doesn't motivate me to respond, I don't force it.

    As for the living off the land thing, gardens and livestock, I'm a city boy, food comes from the grocery store.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. LOL Monkey, that's kind of how I am about hunting game. I don't want to see a beautiful deer on the top of some redneck's pickup or an amazing bird in a crumpled heap on the ground. I want my meat nicely trimmed and packaged in the meat section at the store. Cowardly, I know! I am a carnivore, I was meant to be, but that doesn't mean I have to relish the process. Growing veggies is a lot of work too, but food grown by your own hands tastes 100 times better, so does beef you raised, or someone raised for you!!

      Delete
  4. Thanks for you answers...and a bonus to boot! I try to return the favor for any who comments on my blog. I have some blogs I follow from when I first began blogging and didn't know any better to not follow if I'm not interested. Problem is those same folks still comment on my blog and it makes me feel bad when I don't return the favor.

    I also seriously lack the time to comment. Some people think I am using my kids as an excuse to not visit other blogs. To those people who think that, I say go to hell! You said it the other day, life trumps blogging. I'm not going to neglect my family just to give someone a virtual handjob on their blog. I do the best I can with what little time I have.

    Like the Monkey said, I'm not going to force a comment if I have nothing to add. The last thing I want to be is a spammer!

    In response to your bonus answer, I agree completely. Early on I thought it was all about numbers. Now I could care less how many followers there are... so long as the ones who do read are thoughtful in their comments. That's what matters most.

    You asked me...
    When you depart the physical realm a)what do you want people to remember about you? b) what do you want on your tombstone? and c)what do you hope folks are kind enough to forget?

    a) That is something I have never really thought about. I think I would like to be remembered for my big heart. I am, for the most part, kind and compassionate to everyone. I connect with their feelings and understand people quite well.

    b) I think the answer to this is obvious... sausage an pepperoni of course!

    c) Something I have been trying to forget myself... many years ago, I hit a girl. I am a firm believer in not hitting women but one day I snapped. I am ashamed for what I did, still to this very day. I may have since been forgiven by that girl but I have yet to forgive myself. I'm not sure if I ever will!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Wow, Workingdan... great answers, and somehow I knew they would be! B)was the best! :-) But seriously, I suspected you were that kind of guy - caring and genuine. as for C) I know more than one really good guy who has reacted in a state of anger and done something they knew was wrong and aren't proud of. The fact that you realize it was wrong is pennance enough. I bet you've never let it happen again, so lesson learned - forgive yourself. I've done a hundred really jackass things in my life, I regret them deeply, but I forgive myself. I think I was doing the best I could at the time, even if best wasn't very damn good. Women can lash out in fits of rage too, and to my way of thinking that isn't any more excuseable. As we get older we learn to hold our tempers better, or to vent in a better way. John and I agree that we wouldn't have made it a year together if we'd met when we were young, but now we're way past the hot-headed days, thankfully! Life is too short for fussin and fumin!

      You know I agree on blogging too. Life always trumps blogging, it's easy for folks to forget that. Step away from the puter and LIVE now and then, it will be waiting for you when you come back, and you'll have more great things to share! :-)

      Thanks for the awesome answers, that was appreciated!

      Delete
  5. We have almost 5 acres and I need to mow but my allergies are horrible right now!! We need to plant some trees but with my job going away, we are going to have to put it on hold.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. John does the mowing here Kristi, but try a dust mask, safety goggles, and Allegra before you go out, it helps a bunch!! We want lots more trees too, but the budget is careful, so that will wait for this fall or next Spring. Little by little, we will make it a pretty place to be! Five acres is a LOT to keep up, I don't envy you, but I bet it's beautiful and green at least!!

      Delete
  6. Your land sounds fantastic. I hope you do get the chance to do something with it. I agree with you completely re. blog commenting. It really is impossible to comment on every single post of every blog I follow. I find if I'm not on the net for a couple of days the number of posts I have to catch up on is quite overwhelming. I try to comment on as many as I can and hope that people don't get annoyed if I miss a few (believe me, some people have gotten annoyed.) The last thing I want is for it to be a chore!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It is wonderful to fully own a piece of land and our little house, Selma. We know that no matter what the future holds, we have a place to stay. It is funny how testy some folks can get if you don't comment on every single post they write. I don't expect that on mine. I love commments but I know everyone's life is as busy as mine is, and we comment when we can, on the one's we feel most responsive to or have time for or both. Not commenting doesn't mean I didn't read it or don't like it!

      Delete
  7. Thanks Josie. It's getting to be time here to start thinking about flowers to plant as well.Plus, that i'm supposed to be building some planters for my wife. I hope that you get your lawn and can enjoy the smell of fresh cut grass. Unfortunately, cutting the grass for me brings up memories of having to send my kids back to redo the spots where they did a shoddy job the first time. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. LOL at getting your kids to mow the lawn correctly. Did your dad ever have to send you back out for a re-do? I'm glad to know that you are teaching your kids responsibility, that's one thing farming is good for - it's a family run business and kids grow up knowing how to pitch in and help get the jobs done. My kids were good helpers, but my two nephews were hard-pressed to take out the bag of trash. I pity their wives someday down the road!

      Delete
  8. If you could have seen me as I read this you would have thought my head was like something popping on a stick as I nodded in agreement with what you said. I wear leggings a lot under dresses and skirts but the only time I wear them with just a top is when I get home from shopping and take my dress or skirt off and just leave my leggings on...............I do not think they look good on a lot of people I have a neighbour a woman in her 60's who wears them all the time and I think she looks terrible..........lol

    Sometimes I will start to read a blog post but if I can't get into it I just move on to another post it doesn't mean I am not interested in the blogger just not that post............I am sure I write some posts that some of my followers are not interested in

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I'm with you Jo'Ann, leggings are not a replacement for skirts or pants! I guess we're just old-fashioned that way, or maybe we like to see folks wearing things that look good for the shape of their body.

      I agree on blog posts, some interest me, some are on topics that I don'thave great interest in. Not every post is going to resonate with me every day, nor do I expect mine to with my readers. In fact I'm surprised that anyone manages to read to the end of most the long rambling posts I write! :-) I think it's ok to pick and choose, reading isn't an assignment or an obligation, it's supposed to be a pleasure!

      Delete

Your comments are always appreciated... they make me smile! :-)