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Patience


I'm not so sure if patience is a virtue, or if it's more the art of concealing your impatience!  Such as just now, when my co-worker strolled in from lunch 15 minutes late without explanation or repercussion, thus making we wait 15 minutes to start my lunch break.  She has it down to a science... arrives late, leaves for lunch early, arrives back late 9 days out of ten,  closes the office five minutes early, and actually works about half of the hours in between.  It drives me crazy... blame it on my old fashioned work ethic and staunch Midwest upbringing.  It obviously doesn't bother her supervisors much, so I guess I shouldn't let it get to me.  May "subtly" suggest we exchange lunch hours so she can take her dear sweet time. 

My daughter called in to report that she finally got her Tennessee driver's license this am after waiting for two hours and forty-five minutes for her number to be called!  She said the counter folks were moving sooo slowly in her category that people waiting would clap every time they called a number.  Too funny! 

She has actually been to the Motor Vehicle Department twice before trying to get her license. The first time they told her she needed a copy of  her birth certificate, which she didn't have and had to order.  Then they needed a copy of her marriage certificate since the last name is different than the name on her birth certificate and TX driver's license.  No shit... isn't that true of most women who marry?  She had to order that too.

By this time her Texas license has expired, since she procrastinated on starting the process.  Last night I harassed her a bit about driving with an expired license, reminding her how upset she will be if she gets pulled over and gets a high-dollar ticket or worse.  I guess she got the message because she waited out her turn in line this morning.  But really, 2-3/4 hours is ridiculous.  She said there were five counter people and they really weren't that busy, just very slow, lots of visiting between them.  She has even less patience than her mother, so I commend her for sticking it out and getting it done.  As it was, she left with her new license with barely enough time to make it to her 1 PM appointment with her diabetic doctor across town.  I'm sure new speed records were set, since she'd been waiting for that appointment for some time now.  Ahhhh!

Patience has never been my strong suit either, though I get a little better at is as I grow older.  I reminded her this is just one morning out of her life and it's better to breathe slowly than to tear someone's head off when you finally make it to the front of the line!  I try to put myself in the other person's place and realize that maybe they are having a hard day, and I know that some days people are impatiently waiting for me  as well. 

I'm getting "better" at procrastinating as I get older too!  I used to put things off 'til I had just enough time to get them done, functioning at my best under pressure. Now I tend to wait a bit too long until I've made things more complicated, or I just don't get it done at all.  I have a stack of greeting cards I've purchased thru the years that never got sent out.  Some of the intended recipients aren't even alive anymore!  Maybe I should send the cards to my daughter and see if she can do better with them.  Yes, that's a good idea, hand me down guilt! :-))

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  1. I'm the complete opposite, in that the older I get, the less patient I am.

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    1. LOL Lily, things certainly annoy me more, but I'm trying hard not to become a typical "grouchy old woman" in my senior years. I want kindness and compassion to be my way of life, to be a reflexive action rather than an effort, for that to happen I have to practice what I preach! :-)

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  2. I have also got more patient as I age but still think a 2-3/4 hour wait is beyond a joke...........

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    1. It was outrageous Jo-Anne, coupled with the fact that she'd already been there twice before to get this done. She knew if she left it would just mean another long wait yet a fourth time, but as it is she just barely made it to her doctor appt, she nearly had to leave. I told her that she should write a letter of complaint to the director of Motor Vehicle Department, I would!

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  3. That is too long a wait. Even the Dalai Lama would be getting impatient with that one. Haha. I try to focus very hard on being patient but sometimes it doesn't come easy. I find that listening to podcasts as I wait helps me remain calm. Sometimes I forget how long I've been waiting if I'm listening to a good one!

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    1. It was excessively long, I'm sure I would have been pacing and glowering by then!! In years past I always had a book with me when going anyplace that might involve a wait, now I have my handy iPhone... I can play games, check Facebook and my email, read blog updates, and even blog, so it feels like borrowed time and it goes much faster! I love my iPhone - a very good "pacifier" for adults! :-)

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