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Papa Bear's Tale: The Interview - Part I


Continued from Papa Bear's Tale: The Intro...

Without further ado, I would like to present the man best known in the blogsphere as Papa Bear...

1.  References to you are quite common in my blog posts, what made you agree to this interview?  To help satisfy people's curiosity about me.

2.  What do you remember about your Dad? I don't remember anything about him, all I have is pictures of him.  I do remember my Mom coming home from his funeral dressed in a black dress and crying, but I was too young to understand what had happened. I just knew she was very sad.  Sometimes I think about how different our lives might have been if he hadn't died.

3.  You lived on your grandparents farm for four years after that, how did your grandfather shape your life?  He was very strict but I knew he loved me.  He was a good role model and he taught me honesty, the value of hard work, integrity, that a man takes care of his family, and that you have to work for what you want in this life, it's not just handed to you. He died when I was fourteen, but I think in many ways he made me the man that I am today.

4.  Your mother remarried when you were nine, spending the next the next ten years with a man who was an alcoholic and was very abusive toward her.  How did that affect you? I hated him and how he treated my mother. One time he even attempted to strangle her. If I hadn't been there to hit him in the head with my baseball bat he would have killed her because he wanted money for wine and she wouldn't give it to him. How could you treat someone like that if you supposedly loved them? Seeing what my mother went through taught me a valuable lesson  - women should always be treated with love and respect. 

5.  You've told me stories about the "Girl Haters Club" you formed when you were young.  Why did you start the club, and what brought about it's demise?  My friends and I dug a giant hole in a vacant lot and covered it with plywood and dirt.  It was our clubhouse and we put a sign out that said "GIRL HATERS CLUB - NO GIRLS ALLOWED".  We thought that girls had cooties. :-)  One of the club members let his older sister into the club house one day and I took an interest in her. The sign came down, and I later married her.  I would say that puberty brought about the end of The Girl Haters Club. 

6.  What caused the end of your first marriage?  I married my first wife when I was seventeen years old because she was pregnant and I thought it was the right thing to do. I came home early from work on our first anniversary to surprise her, and found her in an intimate situation with someone else. I knew that I could never trust her again and that our marriage was over. One blessing did come out of that experience - my daughter, who I love with all my heart, and who has also blessed me with three wonderful grandchildren.

Continued in Papa Bear's Tale: The Interview - Part II

19 comments:

  1. The situation with having to save your mother from being strangled is shocking! Thank goodness you were there - but what a terrible thing to have to go through.

    However, back to a happier topic, this was a lovely interview and so good to get to know more about you (John). Thank you both for sharing :-)

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    1. It is shocking Lady in Red. This is just one of the many times John had to take on the role of "man of the house" at an age far younger than most. I'm glad you're enjoying the interview, we are too! - Josie

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  2. Nicely done. I look forward to more!
    Different circumstances, but it was also my maternal grampy who shaped my image of a real man. He sounds very much the same kind of man. He set the pattern for Bill to copy. I knew what to look for, and not settle.
    Good job, you two! ~Hugs~

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    1. Thank you Annie! I think men were raised with different values in those days, a stronger sense of commitment and responsibility for sure. It wasn't an easy time for John, they were very poor, and he worked hard even as a young child. But it did have a lasting influence on him. You were wise to choose your grandfather as a standard for a husband. John's granddaughters would do well to do the same! - Josie

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  3. How sweet, Josie and Papa Bear!

    John, I'm glad you were able to come out of your mom's marriage to an alcoholic seeing that is was wrong to treat a woman that way and not thinking it was it was "normal" behavior. Good for you!

    I look forward to the next interview.

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    1. It is truly amazing that John is the kind, caring, man he is after all he has been thru, Elsie. It totally destroys the theory that children who live with abuse become abusers themselves. It doesn't have to be that way. John treats me better than any man I've ever known, and he is wonderful with his children and grandchildren as well, they are joy of his life! - Josie

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  4. A massive thank you to Papa Bear for doing this post.
    It takes a very strong person to go through what he did, with regards to his mother and say, that's not the way I'm going to treat a woman.
    What a beautiful man. :)

    Look forward to the second part.

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    1. He will be so pleased with the encouraging comments, Lily! This is what I wanted everyone to see, that he really is just as amazing as I describe him. If God did indeed create a few good men, he must have been standing near the front of the line! And yet he's also very humble and says he is just a "corn-fed farmboy". - Josie

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    1. That delights me, Cheryl! I think Papa Bear is awesome, and his life really is an incredible story. I could go on for five more posts and not begin to cover it all, but I won't wear out everyone's interest... I'll save it for the book. This is motivating me to get to work on it!

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  6. Nicely done, it's wonderful to be able to broaden to image we have in our heads, as we get to know the new friends we've made here, a little bit better, over the last little while.

    yesh....that reads terribly! i'm just trying to say, getting to know "Sheriff Bear" a little better, lets us know you a little better. I like that. :)

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    1. LOL Ken, I get your message loud and clear! Sometimes my comments come out a bit confounded too! :-) I guess that's true, "Sheriff Bear" is a big part of my life!

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  7. I am enjoying hearing about Papa Bear very much. He is awesome!

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    1. He really is awesome Selma, sometimes he seems almost too good to be true, but every word of this is!!

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  8. Haha I love how the Girl Hater's Club sign came down!

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    1. Me too! Funny how boys tend to change their mind about girls at some point! hehe

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  9. Now I have to go and read part two, John sounds like such a wonderful man

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  10. Yep, a rocky beginning indeed, but that's what many of us go through. It's what you do with those things, what they make you. I see Papa Bear went in the right direction. ☺

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