Pages

Paint and Plastic


Last night I was commenting on a picture of a friend near my age, noting how beautiful she was. She laughed, but truly there was so much beauty and light in face, and a lifetime of stories in her eyes.  To me, that IS beautiful!  She was also natural, my kind of woman.  I have little time or interest in "paint and plastic" and sometimes it pains me to see what people have done to their faces and bodies in the name of "beauty".  If you want to be horrified, go to Google Images and search "plastic surgery gone wrong" - before and after pictures that are tragic, to say the least.  What is wrong with a society that pushes people to such extremes in an attempt to look 21 forever?  Why is it that we can't see beyond that very surface appraisal of what is attractive?

I once had a friend that used makeup like an artist's palette, applying thick layers of bright colors and ridiculously long lashes until she looked very much like a circus clown, or at least Tammy Faye Baker's sister!  Her husband tried to tell her to tone it down a bit, we all tried subtly to suggest that less can be more, but when she looked in the mirror she felt that all this was necessary to make herself "beautiful".  How sad.  The Creator made her beautiful when she was born, and she remains that way today, with or without makeup.

I've never been one for much makeup or fancy hair - it's that 60's thing again, I suppose.  From time to time I have worn a little, and wear eyeliner now just because I like it. Eyes tend to disappear behind glasses.  I dyed my naturally auburn hair for about a fifteen year period too, in a futile attempt to make early gray hair disappear, and also for the fun of it, trying on lighter and darker colors to see the effect, and once even going candy-apple red... that was "interesting"! :-)   I have no problem with young people who do that, we all need to do a bit of experimenting to find our style and discover who we are in life.  My issue comes with those who feel they are ugly without all that, that being "Plain Jane" isn't good enough. Sometimes I also have the urge to approach my middle-aged male friends who have dyed their hair three shades too dark and ask them if they really, truly think it makes them pass for younger.  If we look in the mirror and can't abide what we see, the problem is most likely far deeper than what meets the eye. 

The same goes for plastic surgery.  Would I love to lift droopy eyelids a bit or tighten up that sagging chin line?  Sure, I'd prefer if gravity didn't take a toll on our bodies as we age.  But would I go to the extreme of paying someone to surgically attempt those alterations?  Hell no!  I am fine with being 58 and I am fine with looking every bit of that.  I am also blessed to have a husband who loves the natural look, who says please don't dye your hair, and whose own hair is prematurely silvery white... and I love it!  When I braid my long hair in a single braid, as I often do for work or sleeping, the colors are a mix of everything from white to darn auburn and I think it's lovely that way.  I'll be thrilled if it someday turns totally white!  I am not 21, and I have no desire to try to pretend I am, or 30, or 40.  To be in great shape for your age is admirable, and I wish I was.  I can improve that some with a bit of effort. But other than that, I am what I am, and when I see other women who are comfortable in their own unaltered skin, I see beauty... naturally... the way God made us.  No paint or plastic for me please, but to each their own.

19 comments:

  1. I think you are very beautiful in a natural way. :D

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank You Angela! I believe that everyone is if you look a bit past the surface distractions.

      Delete
  2. I'm like you. I use mascara and eyeliner for work; mascara for the store if anything at all. Summer - forget it. I never know when the urge will hit to run to the beach or pool will hit so I don't bother with putting on my make up. The best part is, Devin always tells me how beautiful my eyes are, even without my make up on. I have always loved him for that. I've always taught my daughter the same thing: less = more...except with clothes. MORE IS NOT ENOUGH LOL

    I watched a Dr. Phil this week where a woman had, get this, size L boobs. What?? Yeah, size L! She's in the top twenty and she plans on going bigger. It's just gross.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I love your approach to make-up Elsie! More is fine for a special ocassion or a night out, my problem is when we begin to believe that we "can't leave home without it". LOL on dtr, we were watching a gunsmith show the other night where the father/owner's daughter is wearing low cut tanks thru the entire episode and is most likely sporting newly enhanced cleavage... flashing it for all of his older than her shop guys. Ewwwww! Who would want their daughter doing that? Probably network promo to increase viewers, but geesh. I'm absolutely with you on the boobs giantis ala Vegas look. I mean really, there is curvy and then there is freaky, and this falls into the latter category. Something seriously wrong upstairs with the woman I think. Who would do this to their body, and more importantly why??

      Delete
  3. I don't wear any make- up (never have) except for lipstick. I love my lippie. A friend of mine recently had her lips and eyes done and she looks like a permanently surprised blowfish. She is 47 and very beautiful and I didn't think she had much in the way of wrinkles so I was shocked when she had the surgery. The thing with plastic surgery on the face is that it very rarely makes the person look younger - just very stretched and artificial. How did we get to the stage where we think that is beautiful? Or even necessary? It saddens me a lot.

    After I had my accident in November I had plastic surgery on my leg. It was reconstructive surgery but the pain was bad and the recovery process even worse so I don't get why anyone would willingly put themselves through plastic surgery, especially on the face. Ooooh Owww.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Amen to that Selma! I can maybe see a nose job for a woman who has a really out-sized nose or ear-pinning for a guy who has ears sticking out like an elephant's, but beyond that I just don't get it. Those huge lips are rediculous and the taught, expressionless faces freak me out, they look like death masks! A bit of make-up color on the face is pretty, nothing wrong with that. My daughter is blonde and is gorgeous with red lipstick but never wear anything that bold. It's the overall painted up ho look that I find so unappealing. And you ar right about the pain, I guess people are willing to endure just about anything if they truly believe it leads them to the "fountain of youth". Sadly, it doesn't.

      Delete
  4. Paint........aka...........make up is something I do wear a fair bit as you know as it is part of me but plastic surgery no thank I will pass I will grow old naturally nothing wrong with it and if a woman looks after her skin she will look good as she ages..........As I have said on my blog my nan taught me to never expose my face to the elements without some moisturiser..........

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. If you feel good with make-up there is nothing wrong with that Jo-Anne. It's no different than choosing pretty clothing or styling your hair. As with all things, it's excess that becomes an issue, or perhaps even a symptom of living a masquerade. I'm with you on the plastic surgery - no thanks! You are so wise to take good care of your skin. In these parts women who have lived in the harsh summer sun without the proper protection have skin that looks like leather, and there's no way to undo that kind of damage.

      Delete
  5. Josie, you are a genuinely beautiful person, inside & out.
    I agree with everything you said here, and live it myself.
    I wear no make up, and haven't in years. I am comfortable
    In my own skin, in spite of health issues. I prefer natural because it is genuine. I trust genuine; I don't trust artificial.
    I think that is one reason I love animals so much. They are genuine & you know what you are dealing with. People too often wear masks. Wonderful post. Thank you. ;-)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Absolutely McGuffy Ann! You so get it! That's my issue too, I am leery of people to begin with and if they aren't comfortable with themselves naturally, how can I be? Artificial outside, leaves me to question inside. I can't help it, that's just the way I am. No makeup is every bit as beautiful, as well-done makeup, it's just that our society has twisted our thinking on what a beautiful woman should be! I've seen your picture, it was lovely, truly! I am all about being real!

      Delete
  6. This was a fun read and reminds me of something from years ago.

    I went over to a friend's house and her mother opened the door. She wasn't well and so stood there in front of me without any make up on for the first time in my life. I was shocked!!! She's the sort of person who wears thick layers of foundation plus everything else - and here she was without her mask. I literally almost couldn't recognize her. It jolted me so well that I decided then and there never to wear make-up on a permanent basis.

    I don't mind it at all (within reason) but I don't want it to be a mask which I can't go without. So, most often I don't wear any make-up. However, if I feel like dressing up a bit, I use a little brown eye-liner, chapstick with a hint of colour, and sometimes a little powder.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. You feel exactly as I do Lady in Red! A little goes a long way, and a lot is way too much. It is sad that women often feel they cannot be seen in public without "their face" on. Nothing wrong with a fresh-scubbed face and brushed hair. On the other hand, yesterday I saw a couple walking into McDonalds that both had on pajamas, bed hair and had obviously just woken up... that was pathetic. Get dressed at least! :-)

      Delete
  7. I love this. Very similar sentiments to a post I have thought to do *someday*. :) The ideas are there, just not time for it, I guess. I am so disturbed by our society's complete obsession with beauty/youthfulness and I think that the effects run far deeper than we realize.

    GOOD FOR YOU for knowing and recognizing TRUE beauty. I think that happens when a person springs their own beauty from within, and THAT is evident.

    As for the make-up/plastic surgery - I am full of contradictions...I do wear make-up some, but only to work to enhance so I use a very light hand - mostly just powder, eyeliner and mascara so the eyes don't disappear. As for plastic surgery, it is a crazy notion and it is so often taken to the extreme, but then I do understand it in some way...if I could have it done, and it wouldn't cost an arm and a leg (because I can't bear the thought of the $ spent on that kind of thing...) and I could recover quick, I might consider having a mini-tuck...pregnancy was not kind to my tummy area, and wouldn't mind that fixed, and it would be strictly for me because obviously I don't go around with my belly showing. And then that's another reason that I think - oh well...that mess allowed me to have two of the most amazing people come into my life and for that, I am grateful.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I agree Carrie, some major damage has been done in the way of the messages our society and the advertising world send about what real beauty is. It's tragic, and it's so far off-base. Attraction and love are based on so much more than just what first draws attention!

      I agree that most of us would love a bit of repair work here and there, but that's a far cry from turning our faces into the zombie look! And what is with those puffed up fish lips? Does ANYONE find that attractive?

      Delete
  8. I have always said God does not want us vain and that if I was to do something to improve the job He did making me I would be the poster child on those sites you recommended to view ewwww. So I do not tempt fate and keep it simple. Love the picture of the little girl so classic

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I agree Janice, if God thinks I am beautiful this way, that's good enough for me. As John so often says "God doen't make mistakes!" It's true that life - and gravity - take a toll on our youthful appearance, but then I think a beauty of a different sort, and much deeper takes over. I would love to see a webpage and a coffeetable book devoted to the beautiful faces, un-altered, unpainted of women over 50! It's high time for a new perspective! We all age, might as well embrace it!

      And yes, I loved that picture of the little girl too, most of us tried out some variety of that look when we were young, wanting to look "petty" like Mommy did! :-)

      Delete
  9. The funny thing is that most of the actresses who have had plastic surgery do not look better. I wonder why they think that they do? Hard to recognize some of them!

    I use minimal make-up and I enjoy it. I am looking into buying more natural make up as I am learning about the dangerous chemicals in most of the make up that they sell us.

    My hair is already white. I am fine with it natural and I do not miss the time I had to sit in the chair getting it colored! I hated the smell! Saves me money, too! But sometimes when I dream I notice that my hair in my dream is my first natural color black and I do miss it.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Amen to that Lena, one only has to look at the before and after pictures to see the damage that has been done. I wonder how they really feel deep down when they look in the mirror in the morning. I was pretty apalled at the toxic chemicals and stuff that go into makeup too. Anything I use has to be hypoallergenic and fragance free, and even then my skin will probably break out in rebellion.

      I so envy your white hair, mine is headed that way more and more and I can't wait! And yes, coloring it is expensive, messy, time-consuming, and very hard on the hair. Mine is much healthier now that I've stopped! I never see myself in my dreams, at least not that I can remember, now I wonder if most folks do?? :-)

      Delete
  10. I'm still in my forties but I'm trying hard to accept aging gracefully. I do dye my hair, but here that's done practically since puberty, EVERYONE dyes their hair, I'd look far older than I actually am without it - and I prefer being able to get that lighter auburn back again. Other than that it's just a bit of mascara and the lightest hint of blush and a fairly natural lipstick for big work meetings or major events, but most of the time it's no makeup at all. As far as facelifts and the like, having seen a late night documentary years ago on exactly how facelifts are done even if I had wanted one, which I didn't, that would have clinched it. I will never ever EVER have plastic surgery. My breasts nourished my children, my stretchmarks bore them, and I earned every single wrinkle I've got - they're just signs of a life well lived.

    ReplyDelete

Your comments are always appreciated... they make me smile! :-)