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How Far I've Come


It's time for Six Word Saturday and here's what I'm thinking about today...

Look How Far I Have Come!

I get a lot of feedback from friends and people who read my blog, noting how lucky I am to have such a wonderful and loving relationship with my husband. Believe me, I couldn't agree with you more.  There is not a day I don't wake up and realize how very blessed I am! 

I've often referred to my life pre-Papa Bear, and just how difficult and unhappy it was.  Last night I was reading thru some of the older blog posts I've written, contemplating adding some of them to the archives here.  I found this one, and it amazed me - not because it's particularly profound, but because it was written just two days before I met the Papa Bear online!  I had intended to cancel my Yahoo Personals account at the end of December, but something told me to try it one more month, to give it one more chance before giving up.  I had little expectation of anything changing.

My message to people now is always that LIFE CAN CHANGE! It can change in a moment... or in just a few days, weeks or months; it can change in ways you never dreamed were possible!  Here it is folks, the proof in written words.  This post was written on December 31st, 2007.  The first exchange of messages with my beloved Papa Bear took place on January 2nd, 2008... and the rest is history.  The fact that I met him just two days later still gives me goosebumps!  I wonder how differently my life might be if I would have cancelled that subscription as I originally planned.  Listen to that little voice within you... always LISTEN!


Never give up hope of finding love in your life, never give up on life!

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    1. Thank you Mlissabeth! True stories with happy endings are the best! This story has turned out far better than I ever thought possible. :-)

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  2. I read both posts - and wow!!!!!!!!! Thank you for sharing the old one with us! It's so inspiring to read the description of the person you were looking for, but didn't know where to find him, and then know that two days later everything worked out! "What God had in store for you"...... absolutely beautiful. Very much a match made in heaven. I'm so happy for you both :-)

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    1. Pretty hard to call it just a coincidence, isn't it Bozo? The fact that two days after I nearly gave up, the perfect person appeared in my life is truly amazing and wonderful! We are such a good match and that's even more amazing because I am not an easy person to live with! :-)

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  3. How wonderful...How great you didn't close your accounts. We never know what life will bring. So thankful it brought you such joy!

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    1. It's funny Susie because money was really tight then and online dating wasn't doing me any favors. It seemed pointless to continue to waste money that way, just being more depressed by what was out there and "available". I had such a strong sense of "one more month" that I had to go along with it. Two days later... two days! Wow! Papa Bear has brought more joy into my life in the past four years than I experienced in the 50 some before it!

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  4. Very uplifting message. (Never give up)

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    1. That message needs to be preached far and wide, Kristy, and taught to children from the time they are very small. There were several times in my life that things were so bad I didn't want to be there anymore, I couldn't see any way out and I didn't even want to be alive. I realize now, what I would have missed if I had given in to those desperate impulses. Never give up... things change, life gets better if you give it a chance... and if you are willing to move forward!

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  5. Good for you. That's right; never give up on life. You never know how far you can go. Great post.

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    1. Thank you Claudia. If anyone would have told me ten years ago that this would be my life now, that I would feel safe, secure, happy, at peace, loved, and taken care of... that I would have an entirely new life in a brand new place I would have scoffed at them and called them crazy. I used to dream of ways to escape the pain I was in, but I never believed it was really possible. We cannot know what the future holds for us, we have to have faith and hold on tight for the ride!

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  6. Reading that old post, you evoked some familiar feelings for me.
    You claim it's easier for men to move on.
    It's not always the case, as I clammed up since my last relationship,
    keeping mostly to myself...
    Nice to see there is always hope.
    I'd need a dose of that!!
    :)~
    HUGZ

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    1. You have a good point Ticklebear. I do have some male friend who were deeply hurt by relationships and have found it hard to trust enough to move on. I didn't trust anyone after my last relationship ended, and I didn't think I ever would again. It took a long time for me to trust Papa Bear, that he was for real and that he wasn't going to change on me like my last husband did. He was patient and kind, and eventually won me over, I trust him with my life, heart and soul now! We crave relationship and love and I have every reason to believe that if you open the door a tiny crack to possibility love will slip thru and find you! There IS always hope my friend, always! :-)

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    2. Reading others' comments plus your own story, I might think there is indeed a glimmer of hope, if I let it!!
      :)~
      HUGZ

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    3. Definitely there is hope, Ticklebear! It's important to see yourself as being worthy of love, everyone is you know! Also to be open to the possibility that there just might be someone out there who thinks you are their perfect partner. It can happen, and it does! It's amazing how a little belief in one's self can translate to natural attraction! Good luck, keep us posted! :-)

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    4. Well, you don't know my story (and I won't bore you with this), but I have reasons to have doubts, but who khows?
      I'll let you know...
      :)~
      HUGZ

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  7. So happy for you. It's a wonderful world when you're loved.

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    1. It is indeed a wonderful world Restlessjo, sappy as that may sound. Even the hardest days are less difficult because I have someone beside me and behind me to share them with and face them with. We get thru it together and I know we will be ok. And the good days are twice as good because we share them! My happiest memories are just times we have spent together. I treasure the times we've had to share!

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  8. I remember those dark days of yours. All the more sweeter now.

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    1. I know you do Cheryl, and what a mess I was back then. I was so lost and so very worn down. One really appreciates the how good they have it when they remember how bad it can be and was. I no longer live in anger and fear...ever. Hallelujah for that!

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  9. To find love when you almost have given up on it, feels like a miracle. I am so happy you found Papa Bear, Josie. Just like I found my V-man four years ago.
    Life begins after 40? ;)

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    1. Life does indeed begin after 40 for many of us, and for some of us after 50!! We know that we were meant to be together at this stage of our lives, and what a blessing it is to know that you belong! We are making our 5th year of memories, and will be celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary in September. I hope we live to share 20 more!

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  10. It is funny how things change so quickly. I was divorced 9 years before I met my husband. I was beginning to give up hope. I worked with his daughter and one day, out of the blue she called me to set us up. I balked for awhile, I mean seriously is that where I was, getting set up with my coworkers parents, LOL? But it was awesome. I'm happy you have found a great one!

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    1. This is a wonderful story Kim, and only goes to prove that we never know where or how we are going to meet the one intended for us. The idea of two old farts connecting thru an online personals site made many of my freinds laugh, but they aren't laughing now! I'm delighted that you finally found the one you'd been dreaming of as well, life is grand when you are loved!

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  11. Yes there was a time I didn't think I would find anyone but when I least expected it I met Tim and knew pretty quick he was the one for me.......my oldest daughter Kathy-Lee was sure she would never meet anyone after she had her daughter didn't think anyone would want to be with her and her daughter then she met Michael and now she says she didn't know she could feel like she does about anyone......

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    1. The prospects where I lived were really slim too Jo-Anne, no one I was interested in and no one decent who was interested in me. I liked what John wrote on his profile, about what's on the inside being most important, that gave me a glimmer of hope, cuz I sure wasn't "athletic" or "energetic" or "perky"! :-) I believe there is someone for everyone, finding a partner/mate is the natural order of things. I'm so happy both you and your daughter found unexpected love!!

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  12. Where you leave off is where I'll be beginning in just a few short months. Like you, I'm a survivor too. What a wonderful, inspirational, reminder!

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    1. That's true Elsie, and it's scary to think about starting in that place once again... for me it was the FOURTH time and I was past 50 years old! That isn't a recipe for great prospects, but you have changed so much in your life, and I just know God has the perfect person for who and where you are now. Make a realistic "shopping" list of what you are looking for/need and don't want in your life, more about characteristics than appearances, and weigh any new prospects against it, don't settle for Mr. Wrong - love comes in wonderful surprise packages! :-)

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  13. I agree. You should never give up. Never. Life can change in a moment. I firmly believe that!

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    1. At the darkest times in my life, I held on to the tiny ray of hope that a miracle could happen. That hope is what kept me alive. Now I know for certain that miracles happen every day, we just need to believe!

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  14. Very happy for you that things worked out right.

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    1. No one could be happier than I am Shimon, with the way my life has come full circle. God has blessed me considerably in these years and I appreciate things so much more because of what I experienced previously. Life is good, hope reigns eternal!

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