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Roadside Reminder


Each day as I  travel down the highway to my job in the nearby city, I pass by this touching reminder that someone lost their life on this very spot, someone that obviously was loved.  Such roadside memorials are quite common in New Mexico and here in Texas, and perhaps other states as well, though I do not recall seeing them as I grew up. This one is a bit larger and more elaborate than most, which are often simple crosses and perhaps a spray of flowers. 

While I haven't stopped to read this particular memorial, nor the smaller one just a few miles further on where I know a motorcyclist lost his life, I can't help but think that this person belonged to someone... was important in someone's life, maybe a father or a son, or a mother or a daughter.  Someone somewhere mourned their loss, and judging by the frequently replaced flowers, still grieves for them today. 

Such memorials serve a valid purpose, along with commemorating a life that has come and gone, that being a sobering reminder that life can be lost in one brief moment... slow down... drive with care... and always, always say "I love you" before you go.

10 comments:

  1. Those roadside memorials are always touching, and yes, also good reminders. I don't drive here - but often have to tell the driver to slow down and be careful. I just don't understand the need to rush!

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    1. So true, Bozo, I see drivers pull some really crazy stunts almost every day in their rush to get somewhere a tiny bit more quickly. Sadly, this practice means some of them will never get there at all. The world is in such a big hurry, for what? We really don't need all that extra stress in our lives. We will get there in good time.

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  2. Yes, everybody should be remembered..I hadn't thought about the emergence of signs and symbols..maybe you don't notice when you are younger..or maybe there's a sense of being lost in an expanding world outside..and a shrinking one in..Jae

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    1. That may be true, Jaerose, one becomes much more aware of how fragile life is as they grow older. When you are young you believe that you are going to live forever, and that everyone around you will do so too. It is important that we be remembered by someone, if fact that sounds like a good topic for a future post!

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  3. We have a few of those here too, Josie. It is very sad to see especially when you read the tributes and find out the person killed was a teenager or someone in their early 20s. The roads in Sydney are so bad now - everyone is very impatient. It worries me a lot.

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    1. I agree Selma, I hate to see young people's lives end tragically, such a waste of what they might been and had to contribute to our world! I drive ultra-carefully, but I live in constant fear of someone rear-ending me, or flying thru a redlight or stopsign, or gunning it across the horrible highway intersection where a tragedy is just waiting to happen. I wonder why folks can't leave home ten minutes earlier and give themselves a little breathing space!

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  4. Hi Josie,

    My first husband, Senior, was killed in a motorcycle accident back in 1996 you can read about it here *** (http://imarriedasexaddict.blogspot.com/2011/12/in-memory-of-you.html) (it's long) =) .****

    Anyway, a family friend made a wooden cross with brass lettering and put it up at the crash site because we buried Senior in New York and he wanted us to have a place to visit Senior if we needed it. I never thought I'd be able to go to that site again after the night of the crash but I ended up going to that site every Christmas with the kids. It helped us heal and move on and remember their daddy. It helped provide closure. Eventually, the cross became overrun with bugs and I had to get rid of it and we moved out of state....now all that's left of Senior's accident is the bent guard rail..still...15 years later, and his memory.

    And, a family that never, ever leaves home without saying "I love you".

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    1. How I wish this story wasn't much too close to home for you. I cannot even begin to fathom the heartbreak and pain you've had to deal with. I'm sure in many ways your children have been your salvation because they needed you more than ever. It was nice to hear from a family member that the roadside memorial had meaning and felt right, a much more healing focus than that bent guardrail that should long since have been replaced, out of compassion if for no other reason. I have no doubt that you will always remember to part with loving words, its a lesson we all would do well to learn and remember. Life is fragile, handle with care!

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  5. I somehow missed this.

    I take a very different view of those memorials. I'll put my opinion on my own blog.

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    1. Will be looking forward to reading what you have to say, Monkey.

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