Without further ado, I present my Questions and Answers to this week's round of One Question Wednesday! (Haven't had a chance to play yet? It's not too late, leave a question in the comments section and I'll answer it and update this post.)
From Bozo - You mentioned that you are hypersensitive to lights, sounds and smells. It just made me wonder how you and your Papa Bear work things out? I mean, even without being hypersensitive to certain things, sharing a home with someone else can be daunting... so I can't help but wonder how you manage with this added challenge?
- When I'm home alone the house is quiet, I rarely have on any noise at all to give my ears a rest. I listen to ringing phones all day long, sometimes I even dream I hear phones ringing! If Papa Bear is home the tv is usually on, but he is good about reducing the volume if it's something loud, or I just take out my hearing aids! :-) The biggest problems I encounter is if watching action/adventure/sci-fi movies that he loves. If they have a lot of flashing light and sound with rapid motion it can make me queasy and give me a really bad headache, so I try to avoid those. Thankfully, he also enjoys romance comedies and drama movies, so we see more of that kind.
Smell is hard, I am so sensitive that he is unable to wear his the expensive cologne that he loves, unless I am not around. Even the scent of hairspray or anything aerosol is enough to give me headaches, so he is very careful to use those things in another room, and we buy non-scented products as much as possible. Papa Bear is such a loving, giving, caring person that if he knows something bothers me like this, he just won't do it, which is so sweet. Sadly, I am becoming more and more allergic to flowers as well, but every now and then he still gives me some because I love them so much... I just set them across the room rather than close by so I can breathe! Thankfully, I am not allergic to cats, that would make me too sad for words!
From The Ranting Monkey - If you were given the ability to change one thing about the human race, and only one thing, what would you change and why?
- Just one? Geesh, I have a whole list of suggestions for God on how He could improve upon the human race! :-) Ok, seriously, I think the thing most lacking in mankind is the awareness of our place and purpose on this planet (is that two things?). By that I mean that we are all members of one large family, the family of mankind, divisions between us are all created by man and serve no purpose other than to cause problems between us. I am no different than any woman anywhere in the world, we love the same, we fear the same, we hurt the same, and we laugh the same! Our purpose is undeniably to help each other along the path on this sacred journey we call life, it is not about acquiring possessions or power. Self-centered ambition is the root of all evil. Short answer - that we would have an inborn drive to love and care for each other above everything else!
From L - Of the seven tattoos you have is there one that you regret getting and why?
- I love my tattoos, L - all of them! The only one I would not have done in retrospect was an early one that is an artist representation of a silver and turquoise cross I was given as a gift. The tattoo artist didn't place it exactly where it would have looked best on my upper arm. However, I solved that by having a beautiful angel done next to it and the entire piece framed by a ribbon running from the cross around the angel. I like it now. Each tattoo I have done has meaning and beauty and I don't regret any of them. I want to have one more done before I die, something in tribute to my beloved soulmate Papa Bear.
From McGuffy Ann - Who is your (non-related) personal hero, and why?
- That's easy! The person I admire above all others is Mother Teresa. Not only did she dedicate herself to service of her Lord and the most pitiful among His people, but she understood the true meaning of love, and that it should not be limited to only those who believed as she did. She had tremendous wisdom and humility and admitted to the human frailties and doubts that we all have. She was a tiny, unimposing figure whose spirit towered over the great people who stood in her presence. I wish I could have known her!
From Chele - You are planning a trip to a gorgeous island where you will spend the most relaxing week all by yourself with nobody around. You are allowed to take only three items, aside from clothing, what would you take with you and why?
- Another easy one! A laptop for writing, a good book for reading, and gourmet chocolate for eating! I suppose an attractive young native to serve me drinks would be out of the question?? :-) I love my time alone, and there is nothing more peaceful than warm ocean breezes on wide stretches of sand. I would read, write, meditate, sleep, and come back nicer to live with... for at least a little while!
From Kristi - If you could go back and change something regarding being a parent, what would you change?
- There are so many things I wish I would have done or handled differently as a parent, Kristi. I am ever-amazed that my son and daughter grew up to be the wonderful, caring, successful adults that they are! While they were most certainly loved beyond all measure and knew it, too often the requirements of earning a living to feed them took priority over spending quality time together. We have good memories, but I wish that I had spent less time worrying about a clean house, and more time having fun!
Another answer that comes to mind... I wish I would have shortened my daughter's father's life by about twelve years. But that's a story for another day.
From - Pen - Of all the places you've lived in your life, which was your favorite and why?
- I had to give this question some thought. I have lived in seven states and a foreign country (Germany) and have moved over 30 times in my life. Each place had things I loved and things I didn't love much. For me, home is pretty much where you make it, and my home is wherever I am with Papa Bear. I miss South Dakota because my heart is connected to the land there, but if I could live anywhere (besides a tropical island of course), I would choose Tennessee. Though I've never lived there my children both do - it is so green and beautiful... a little slice of heaven!
From Soul - Do you have resentments as deep as I do about New Mexico? Would you ever live there again?
- This one kind of ties in to the above question, Soul Sis. Your feelings about New Mexico have a lot to do with the experiences you had there. I've had some pretty grim experiences there too, though more directly related to who I was living with than anything else. The job I held for 19 years there gave me the means to break free of my second husband and support myself and my children reasonably well as they were growing up, so I am thankful for that, though I grew to hate the job in the end, again because of one person's ability to make life miserable for others. New Mexico, has beautiful scenery in some places, but it is also ranks among the worst states when it comes to education, crime, teen pregnancy, unemployment, efficient government, etc, etc, etc. At times it felt like I was living in a third-world country! I would live there again if that's where I had to be, I can make my home anywhere, but it wouldn't be my preference, and most certainly not in the town I lived for all that time. I left that one in the rear view mirror with tremendous relief. I used to tell my ex-husband that the biggest problem there was inbreeding! :-)
Well, that's it for this week's OQW Questions and Answers, unless someone pops in with another one before the night is over... there's still time, and all questions are fair game! To everyone who contributed a question, THANK YOU so much for playing!! I love the things I learn about each of you as you answer my questions and I hope you're getting to know me a little more (for better or worse) too! It is interacting with my fellow bloggers that makes blogging so enjoyable!