While surfing Six Word Saturday posts today and checking out a few profiles of folks who contributed, I came across an oft heard expression that bothers me to no end..."I don't have a life." What? Are you breathing? Then trust me, you are living!
What folks who express that sentiment are really saying is that they don't believe they have a life of value, it's not interesting, or exciting, or fun. Or maybe someone else they know has a life that looks much more wonderful than their own.
I think there are two things that need to happen... first, you need to re-evaluate what "having a life" means to you. What would be your vision of a satisfying life, really? Of course we might immediately respond with fabulous wealth, freedom to travel anywhere, never having to work another day, lots of adventure! Certainly, most of us would like the opportunity to experience at least some of those things. But does their absence in our lives really mean we don't have a life at all, or just that we are unhappy with the life we have?
So the next step is to figure out what you really feel is lacking deep down... is it friendship, activity, new interests, being of service to others? Narrow it down to one thing you can do that would add a bit of sunshine to your "so called life". For many working folks it might even be 30 minutes a day all to yourself to soak in bubbles, or paint your toenails, or read from a good book. For others it might be a walk outside for fresh air and exercise, or a phone conversation with a friend, crafting something beautiful or useful, or arranging a weekend getaway. Then make it happen! I am told that we make time for the things that are most important to us, even if just a little time!
I think our society and media are geared toward making us believe that excitement is a prerequisite to being happy. Is living an activity or a state of being? My perception after 50-plus years of living is that every day is an adventure, we never know what's coming next. Every day has opportunities to learn, to witness, to experience, and to share caring and joy! The nights I find myself most content with my life are the ones where sometime during that day I made someone else smile, or extended a friendly greeting, or helped someone who was struggling, or got to snuggle up with my sweetie. If I was to describe how I spend most of my days, the majority of folks might describe it as boring or mundane, but to me, after years of living in chaos and constant emotional upheaval, boring is heavenly, a quiet room is a state of grace!
If you don't feel like you "have a life" you're in big trouble, and I've got news for you... this is the only one you're going to have (unless of course you believe in reincarnation which is possible, but that life came before or will be for another time)! So stop feeling sorry for yourself and decide what you can do to feel better about how you spend your days. You don't have to make dramatic changes overnight, you don't have to tear off your clothes and run naked in the forest so you can live to tell the tale! You need to make time to do something meaningful for you, something that gives you pleasure or a sense of contentment.
I think we all know how much one person can improve our whole day by their positive attitude, smile, or greeting. Step outside of your self-proclaimed misery and be the person that makes that difference... make a life for yourself that you're proud of, and a life you can love enough to claim as your own!
I assure you, my friend, you have a life, and it's ticking away hour by hour... don't waste it while daydreaming of some magical life far, far away. Make the magic happen!