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No Walk In The Park


This weeks prompt for Sunday Scribblings is "A Walk In the Park". Here's my contribution...

A week from tomorrow my husband is scheduled to have knee replacement surgery. He is dreading it, understandably. His left knee was injured in an accident on an oil rig thirty four years ago when he jumped from a catwalk to avoid a falling piece of heavy metal. He landed on his feet, but his body twisted, wrenching the knee. At that time he had the option of surgery or physical therapy but he had a family to feed, so chose physical therapy and was back on the job within a month.

The knee didn't heal correctly and has gotten progressively worse over the years. His lower leg is bent and juts out to the side so that his knees nearly touch together when he walks. Along with being disfiguring, this affects his gait, and causes strain on his hip, back, and ankle. Everything is out of proper alignment. Couple this with the fact that he works nine hours a day standing at a counter in the truck accessories store where he has worked for nearly 30 years, and you get the picture of the pain he endures. It is long since time to get this taken care of!

We like the orthopedic surgeon who will be performing the procedure. He was recommended by the Chief Medical Officer of the hospital whose wife had her knee replaced by him. The surgeon made it clear that there will be pain involved, but it will be manageable. The daily physical therapy required after surgery won't be much fun either. But there are positives... his boss has been great about working with him to schedule the required time off - estimated at 6 to 8 weeks, and my supervisor has also been supportive regarding me taking days off to be with him at the hospital and flexing my work schedule as needed to transport him to and from physical therapy, since we live 15 miles from town and he won't be allowed to drive.

Today, a week in advance of the surgery, my husband is to discontinue taking the Plavix which prevents blood clots from forming in the two end-to-end stents that were placed in his artery following a heart attack in 2008. That adds a little extra anxiety, but it is essential to controlling bleeding during and after the surgery. I anticipate that he'll also be a little grumpy from dealing with the pain and restless with "cabin fever" from not being at work everyday. As soon as he is moving about freely, he may be able to sit in the office to answer phones and place orders, which would make him feel much better and be a big help at work.

The coming weeks definitely aren't going to be a walk in the park for us. My husband has heard many knee replacement surgery stories, both good and bad, from well meaning friends. I am not looking forward to it either... seeing my husband in pain tears my heart out; but he is strong and determined to follow thru with the therapy. I know that a few months from now when he is at long last able to stand and walk without pain, we will be so glad that he got it done! Please keep him in your prayers for healing.

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25 comments:

  1. It sounds like this is a long-overdue surgery. A necessity. It will be hard for all the reasons you stated, but so worth it and one day will be just a memory. I wish for a very successful surgery and recovery. It won't be a walk in the park, but you'll be side-by-side.

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  2. I like that sentiment very much Cheryl... I had to read it to my husband. He said, "Maybe someday I will be able to take a walk in the park!

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  3. I'm guessing that the stories are like those women tell each other when a new one becomes pregnant. The good stories are great to hear; the bad ones you so wish you'd never heard.

    Consider him added to my prayer list. He can join your daughter on it.

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  4. Prays will be coming!

    I have to have both my knees done at some point and I am putting it off as long as I can. But I can feel the pain in my hip now, too. I so miss all the things I used to do when I had my good knees.

    I will be curious how it all goes for your husband, but I know with you by his side all will be well.

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  5. It won't be a walk in the park but it will be well-worth the effort. You've probably heard all the stories from doctors and other patients. As a spouse, make sure that you have "you time" for yourself. Love him, comfort him, push him to keep up with therapy and always, always find a way to tuck in serene little moments that you can use to regain your own strength.

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  6. Perhaps it is a stereotype or perhaps it is just the male rolemodels in my life, but it seems that men have to be or choose to be stoic about their pain. They generally avoid doctors, avoid pain meds, etc. They don't talk about it. They don't want to worry others about it. Plus they are generally the breadwinners want to support their families and thus don't want to take time off work. It must be so much pressure! I'm glad your sweetie is finally getting relief.

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  7. Yes, Patty, that's pretty much the way the stories go... some blazing successes, some horror stories where I'd like to shoot the folks who shared them. Why do people do that?! I am ever grateful for your prayers, I know prayer works!

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  8. Thank you Lena, I so appreciate the prayers! My sister also needs to have her knees done, first one sometime this summer. I am hoping and praying that John's goes really well so we can cheer you all on when it comes your turn! You are right about the strength we have in supporting each other, it means everything!

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  9. Wise words Autrice! I've seen many caregivers wear themselves out trying too hard to cover all the bases by themselves. I have learned over the years that I am important too, and I'll make sure to squeeze in some down time to relax and recharge. I am blessed in that my husband will want to do as much for himself as he possibly can, but will appreciate the extra TLC too!

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  10. That is so true, Wendy (a name very close to my heart by the way), my Sweetie has been putting up with his knee problems for all these years. I met him three years ago and could see it was time to take action. He knows it, but also worries about leaving them shorthanded at work, covering expenses while he is off, and another round of medical bills to be paid off over many moths. But I've kept after him to get it done, there is no pricetag that can be put on being pain free and able to walk well. All related concerns will work out in some way, it always does. I am so glad he agreed that the time is now!

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  11. Knee problems (I've got my own) are awful, he's going to feel SO much better once this is fixed and he heals.

    Can I add a few more good knee replacement stories? Several people I know well have had them in the past 6-12 months and they are all doing beautifully and so very glad they finally did it - two of them are even back to folk dancing again, a hobby they'd had to give up years ago!

    Many good thoughts going out to your DH for a good procedure and smooth recovery.

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  12. Josie's shoes get to walk for two for a while. He's fortunate to have you to lean on :)

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  13. I've been through something similar. Trust me, it's worth it.

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  14. Things can only get better. I'm a great believer in the power of positive thought.

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  15. What a sweet sentiment that warmed my heart and made me smile Reinsey, thanks!

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  16. Thank you for the good stories to share with my husband Robin. We are so hopeful that all will go well and he'll walk better and feel less pain than he has for a long, long time!

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  17. Amen to that Keith! I am also one who believes in the power of positive thinking. I've seen what it's done to transform my life!

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  18. Thank you for the words of encouragement Berowne, I've talked with so many people who benefitted from knee replacement surgery and I'm believing it will be the same for my husband. Pain for a little while, recovered abilities for the future - definitely worth it!

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  19. Today my stepdaughter sent me a photograph she had taken awhile back of my husand and I walking hand in hand down a hallway (taken from the back). I loved it! Perfect timing! And after the surgery is over and healing has begun, we'll continue walking hand and hand together forever more. :-))

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  20. A close friend of mine has had knee replacement surgery and said it was the best thing he ever did. The amount of mobility he now has compared with prior to the surgery is incredible. I wish your hubby all the best with the surgery. I'll be thinking of you both.

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  21. Thank you Selma! We are hearing so many good reports like this from people who have undergone knee replacement. While the process isn't fun, the outcome will be awesome. Tonight my husband said, "Maybe I will be able to bowl again." That would be very cool! It's not just about the ability to move around, it's about being able to do the fun things you are no longer able to participate in!

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  22. My brother in law had knee surgery in 2010 and is due to have the other knee operated on in March. He is so glad he had the first one done. We all certainly hope your hubby gets the same result.

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  23. Thank you Oldegg! The vast majority of the people I've heard from or talked to have been so very pleased with the outcome of their knee replacement surgery. We are definitely hoping for the same! My younger sister is planning to get her first knee done this summer, with the other one to follow, so she'll be eager to see how this goes. I think my husband handles pain a little better though. ;-)

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  24. Thank you Oldegg! The vast majority of the people I've heard from or talked to have been so very pleased with the outcome of their knee replacement surgery. We are definitely hoping for the same! My younger sister is planning to get her first knee done this summer, with the other one to follow, so she'll be eager to see how this goes. I think my husband handles pain a little better though. ;-)

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  25. Nope definitely not a walk in the park for either of you. You are lucky to have your employers onside. Give him my best wishes.

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