We just finished watching the Netflix movie "Play the Game." The plot was thin and overacted, and a few scenes were downright embarrassingly tasteless - such as an aged Andy Griffith having an orgasm - but despite that it wasn't bad as light fare, and the underlying messages were right on target. Two intertwined themes played out in the movie... good relationships are based on honesty, and one of the strongest human needs/desires is for companionship.
Companionship is a word we don't often hear anymore. Years ago more marriages lasted longer and marriage partners did indeed become life-long companions. Mutual attraction is necessary, and for sure hot sex is great, but the bottom line in a relationship is whether or not you are best friends. Is this the person you want to spend your time with? Will they be there for you and with you thru good times and bad?
In too many married couples I know, and in a couple of my past marriages, we ended up spending very little time together with the exception of shared meals and sleep time. Even at those times there wasn't a great deal of interaction. How different it is in my life now! I can honestly say without question that my husband is first and foremost my companion. Home time and free time are most often spent together - we want to be with each other and we treasure the time shared. Three years later Saturday night is still date night, and on any other night you are likely to find us sitting on the sofa together watching tv surrounded by our furkids, or relaxing together in the hot tub under a canopy of bright stars!
I was once told that the best marriages are those in which each partner feels they got the best end of the deal. Partners... there's that concept again. A partner is someone who belongs with you, and that's where you want them to be. You enjoy their company, you love spending time together.
Lest someone misreads this and thinks I believe in being conjoined at the hip with your partner, I don't! Nothing is more pathetic than a wife who won't trust a husband to let him out of her site for an evening, or a husband who acts that way toward his wife. It is healthy for everyone to have a few interests and activities all their own. This gives you experiences to bring back to the table to share with each other. We all need a little down time alone too, even if it's just time to go for a walk, read a book, or paint your toenails.
This is just a gentle reminder to keep companionship an important part of your relationship. Treasure it, nurture it, plan time together in your day and week no matter how busy your lives are. Realize how blessed you are to have someone who loves you! Make good memories to last a lifetime.