Things I've Learned Along the Way

My contribution for today's Thursday Thirteen meme is a list of things I know now that I wish I did way back when.
  1. It is important that we value ourselves. Don't let anyone destroy your belief in yourself. People who try to tear you down are rarely happy with themselves and their own life.

  2. Your children will grow up amazingly fast. Spend time with them now - read, play, talk. Do less yelling and more listening! There will be plenty of time for dusting when they're gone.

  3. There will never be enough time and energy to accomplish everything on your "To Do" List. Keep focused on the people and things that are most important to you, and don't beat yourself up for what doesn't get done.

  4. Don't be pressured into overcommitting yourself. It is healthy to learn to say No! If you are constantly busy you'll become exhausted and resentful. It's important to slow down and let that quiet voice inside guide you.

  5. Don't becoming a caretaker or enabler for someone who should be taking care of themselves. You will wear yourself out and you will cripple them. Everyone needs to grow up and learn to function independently before they can contribute to a relationship.

  6. Don't judge people by what's on the outside, and don't make an instant judgement. First impressions - both good and bad - can be very wrong. Take some time to get to know someone before you decide.

  7. Don't get caught up in the need to constantly acquire more stuff or in trying to keep up with someone else. The happiness material acquisitions provide is very short lived. You can be happy with far less, and it's so much easier to move! :-) It isn't what you have, it's who you have in your life that's important.

  8. Create something! Everyone has creativity within them. Find something you enjoy doing. It can be your salvation when life is stressful.

  9. Keep some space between your work life and your personal life. Don't drag work home and don't drag your personal issues into work. Don't get involved in coworkers' drama.

  10. Everyone has a purpose and something of value that they can share with others, even if it's just a smile and a friendly word. What a difference a small act of kindness can make!

  11. Count your blessings! Find something to be grateful for each day, no matter how hard the day has been.

  12. Tell the people you care about how much you love them - do it often, and don't just tell them - show them! You never know if you'll have that opportunity again. Send love notes or leave them somewhere to be discovered. They are real daybrighteners!

  13. Believe in the future and never give up hope. No matter how dark life seems, the sun rises in the morning and it will for you too. You will be given enough strength to go on.
Oh dear, I'm already at 13 and I'm just getting started! I'll stop here for today and maybe come back and add to the list as time goes on. If only we knew at 25 what we know at 50, huh? :-) Now head over to Thursday Thirteen and see what some other folks had to say!


  1. Oh honey....this list is just TOO wonderful. With your permission I want to copy it, frame it and hang it in my kitchen!!! I agree with every single one of them. Enjoy your day, sweetie. I envy the people who enjoy YOU are a JOY.

  2. These are all so true....thank you for sharing, and reminding me!

    Hello via T13 :)

  3. #2 particularly resonates: The spending of time with my kids and the permission to not worry about all the housekeeping :)

    Enjoy your day!

  4. So many of the things on your list 'resonate' with ME today and I'm delighted you shared. Isn't life amazing and aren't we fortunate?
    Hugs and blessings,

  5. Number 12 is the best. The one I learned is to listen to your gut, that inner voice. Because that voice is usually right. Be open, but don't ignore that inner voice.

  6. In the end, it is always people that make a difference.

  7. Val, thank you ao much for your kindness and friendship! Of course you have my permission to copy and print this stuff. Like I said, I wish I would have realized it all much sooner in life, but better late than never! :-)

  8. Thank you for visiting Devilish Southern Belle! I'm glad you stopped by and found some things you could relate to! It's pretty basic wisdom, but I've had to learn it all the hard way - I'm stubborn like that and it took me a long time to stop making the same mistakes! :-)

  9. Stephanie, that was an important lesson for me too. I came from a home where discipline and housekeeeping took priority but there wasn't a whole lot of warmth and happy times shared. I didn't feel the encouragement I needed and I wanted to make sure that my kids did. They turned out great, but I still wish I had done even better at realizing what was most important then, and it wasn't the dishes or the laundry!

  10. Hello Storyteller - welcome to my blog! I'm glad you liked my list. Life is indeed amazing, sometimes the very best things come to us later on!

  11. Welcome Mitchypoo! I've always been very independent and have tried to control my own destiny, often to my detriment. It's taken me a long time to stop planning and plotting long enough to listen to that inner voice, it's never been wrong.

  12. Hi Audry! You are so right, people do make all the difference. Even just one person can have a tremendous effect. I am wealthy beyond words because I have some wonderful people are in my life! You could take away every THING I own and I still wouldn't be poor!

  13. What a marvellous list. You are spot on with every one. I really have to remember to count my blessings every day because when I do life truly does seem wonderful. Thanks for such a feelgood post!

  14. Thank you Selma! I agree, it's really easy to focus on all the frustrations and difficulties in our lives and sometimes we forget that good things are happening daily too!

  15. Hi Desi, thanks for stopping by! We all learn things as we go. I wish life came with an instruction manual so it wouldn't be such a difficult journey.


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