The Ghostlight Was Shining

A few months ago I posted the following story on my other blog. I am reposting it here because I want to share a special update with you at the end of the story. If you've read it before, skip down to the epilogue.

We have a frequent guest at our home. We note her visits in spousal shorthand..."The ghostlight was on when I came home today."

Several years ago, my husband's wife of many years died tragically from an aneurysm. He was away at the time it happened and never had the chance to say goodbye. He wishes that he would have told her more often how much he loved her. (A good reminder for all of us and the people that we love.)

Not long after her passing, the lamp on the table on her side of the bed began coming on spontaneously. He believes that it was her reassuring him that love transcends life and that she was watching over him. When he remarried and moved to his new wife's home their bedside lamps (which were hers, not the ones he had previously) also came on from time to time - and always the one by her side of the bed. Sometimes it even came on when one of them was standing in the room!

Some years later this beloved wife died after a long battle with cancer, and in God's time John met me and we moved into our new home to begin a life together. This time a pair of bed lamps I owned grace the tables beside our bed, yet we continue to find the light on my side of the bed burning brightly on occasion when we return from work. Sometimes this also occurs while we are at home but in another room.

One night I noted to John that it was interesting the bedroom light has continued to come on spontaneously despite the changes in both houses and lamps, and that no other lights ever come on. The next morning when we awoke the lamp by my chair in the living room was on... this lamp was the bedside lamp at his previous home! I had to chuckle, because I guess she was listening. :-) It has not come on since. It is also interesting to note that all three sets of lamps were/are "touch lights" the kind that don't have a switch. There really is no pattern or time frame for these occurrences, it's very random. Sometimes it happens often, and sometimes not for a couple weeks.

There is a very peaceful feeling in the bedroom when I find the light on, never scary or intimidating. In fact one day when I was home from work miserably sick with the flu and feeling down, I headed back to bed after being up for a little while to find the ghostlight shining. It tells me that she is happy with the love I have for John and that she cares about me too. I always greet our ghostly angel with "Hi Sweetie", and John says to her "I love you too, Darlin'." She is welcome in our home and I hope her light continues to shine now and then for all the years to come... it testifies to our belief that love is eternal.

It's been over a month since the ghostlight has come on. Last evening all three of John's daughters, their spouses, and four of the grandchildren were gathered in our living room visiting. It's the first time they've all been together since the funeral of John's previous wife. It was a lovely evening with storytelling, photo sharing, and much laughter.

John went back to our bedroom for something and then called to me. I went to our room to find the ghostlight shining brightly. What a warm feeling! We smiled at each other, knowing that it truly was a family gathering in every sense of the word... the girls' mother had come to join us. :-)


  1. It makes me smile just to think about it, Amanda! Nothing is stronger than a mother's love for her children, I know you can relate to that! :-)

  2. That made me tear up a bit Sophie especially your warm and loving acceptance of that part of John's life.

  3. Oh, when I read this the first time, I loved it. I adore the epilogue! I believe. I believe!

  4. I have tears in my eyes after reading this. She is looking out for you all. I am so glad her presence is peaceful and that you don't feel scared. What a wonderful story about the power of love!

  5. When I saw that light on Friday evening it kinda took my breath away too, KayDee. I mean how perfect is that? I couldn't have written a story ending any better! Not only do I accept that part of John's life, I cherish it. The people and experiences in his past have made him the person that he is today, as is also true of me. To deny someone's past is wrong. We often share things from our lives prior to our relationship, both the happy memories and the sad ones. We've both mellowed over the years so we are just right for each other now!

  6. Yes Patty, it is hard not to believe when the timing of our ghostly visits is so amazing. I believe that all our loved ones who have moved on to the spirit life are often around us, I wish they all made their presence as easily known! :-)

  7. It is a beautiful story, isn't it Selma?! I think these visits have done wonders to help John heal from such painful losses of several people in his life, as it reassures him they haven't really gone that far away, and the love that was between them still remains. Love is eternal.


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